I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Write an anger letter

When we are angry with someone, it is hard to express our emotions to them without making the situation worse.  Many times, we just hold our anger inside and try to ignore the situation/person.  This is not a positive way of dealing with anger.  It is important that we learn to manage our anger, understand why we are angry and make changes in the way we deal with difficult people and situations.

A good way to deal with anger is writing a letter.  Getting your thoughts and emotions out in the open will help you process them in a positive way.  Write a letter to someone who has hurt you.  Do this when you are alone and will have no interruptions.  If you have a close friend who is completely supportive and would benefit from their presence, explain what you are doing and allow them to be close by.  Turn off your phone, your computer and the TV.  Say whatever you need to say.  Write down any feelings of anger, hatred, disgust or despair that are causing you to be uncomfortable.  Then once the letter is done, sit back and take a deep breath.

When you are ready, read the letter out loud to yourself.  Hearing your own words will start the healing process.  Remember that I said you need to be alone or with a close, supportive friend.  When you have finished reading the letter, allow yourself to scream, cry, punch your pillow.  Just don’t do anything to hurt yourself or damage anything around you.  Allow yourself to be completely drained, emotionally, physically and spiritually.  Now you should be ready to put this anger behind you.

Take the letter, rip it into pieces and throw it away.  Just don’t mail the letter as it would likely cause more pain.  The letter is strictly for your own eyes.

Now, take some time to relax.  This exercise will have taken a lot out of you.  A lot of pressure has been released.  Listen to some soothing music, read an inspirational book, take a nap.

If you have more anger to deal with, write more letters until you are feeling lighter.  Carrying anger with you is a heavy load.  Release your anger in a positive way.




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