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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

How do you manage your emotions?

The way we manage our emotions affects the way we live.  If we allow our emotions to control us or just ignore them, they will create chaos in our lives.  However, if we learn how to control our emotions, we will have less stress and more peace in our lives.

Emotions are important.  They can tell us that something wonderful is happening and provide us with much pleasure and happiness or they can be a warning sign that something is wrong and needs to be addressed.  Think about the warning lights on the dashboard of a car.  When you see a red light flashing, what action do you take?  You can do one of three things:

  1. ignore it or even cover it up so you can’t see it flashing
  2. smash the light with a hammer and stop it from flashing
  3. take it to a mechanic and find out what the problem is

What would the first two actions accomplish?  Ignoring the problem or breaking the flashing light won’t make the problem go away and it won’t fix anything.  Your vehicle will eventually be damaged and stop running altogether.  The last action is the only way you will discover what the problem is and how to correct it.

If you handle your negative emotions by ignoring them or allowing them to explode, this will certainly not fix anything.  You will damage your relationships and your own health.  The best way to take care of your emotions is to deal with them and learn how to control them.  It isn’t always easy but if you pay attention to your emotions and consciously try to calm yourself, it can be done.  Here are some ideas:

  • try to avoid situations that cause your emotions to get out of control
  • never react immediately – practice taking a deep breath and count to 10 before having an out-of-control emotional reaction
  • try to focus on something positive
  • pray for guidance
  • leave the situation if you are struggling to maintain control and come back when you have calmed down
  • practice using positive self-talk and looking at things from a different perspective
  • vent your emotions in a positive way –  write them down on paper or talk to someone you can trust
  • examine your feelings and make positive changes in your life

It takes a lot of practice to manage your emotions but if you are consciously aware of your thoughts and work hard to stop yourself from reacting immediately, you will soon develop a habit of self-control.  How do you manage your emotions?

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Are you using toxic products

I keep reading books and articles about toxic substances that are in foods and products.  Let’s face it, the world uses all sorts of dangerous chemicals that are harmful to our health.  Many of the food items we eat contain additives and preservatives that we are not even aware of and many of the products we use contain chemicals that we should be avoiding.

It can be very hard to avoid everything that is dangerous to our health because there are toxins in the air we breathe and in many of the things we come into contact with, but we should keep informed so we can make healthier choices.  I’m certainly going to be more careful when I buy groceries and other products.

When it comes to food, we should choose natural, whole foods that are not processed to death.  Following is a list of foods that have toxins which can cause serious health risks.  For detailed information check out this link…..http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2013/06/10/9-unhealthy-foods.aspx

  • canned tomatoes – the lining of the can contains BPA
  • processed meats – have been given growth hormones and antibiotics, filled with sodium nitrate, preservatives and chemicals
  • margarine – contain trans fats, free radicals, preservatives and solvents
  • vegetable oils – highly processed
  • microwave popcorn – lining in bag contains chemicals
  • non-organic potatoes – treated with pesticides that absorb into the potato
  • processed table salt – we need salt but table salt is not like the natural salt we need
  • soy products – most are genetically engineered
  • artificial sweeteners – contains chemicals that can wreak havoc with your body

David Suzuki tells us that some of the ingredients in most beauty products contain industrial chemicals that can cause cancer and other serious illnesses. Here is a list of these ingredients.  Detailed info at this link…..http://www.davidsuzuki.org/issues/health/science/toxics/dirty-dozen-cosmetic-chemicals/?gclid=CLSKr4HVg8kCFYU5aQodG9AGtQ

  • BHA and BHT
  • Coal tar dyes: p-phenylenediamine and colours listed as ‘CI’ followed by a 5 digit number
  • DEA related ingredients
  • Dibutyl phthalate
  • Formaldehyde-releasing preservatives
  • Parabens
  • Parfum a.k.a. fragrance
  • PEG compounds
  • Petrolatum
  • Siloxanes
  • Sodium laureth sulfate
  • Triclosan

There is also an article that details certain dangerous products sold in dollar stores.  Following is a list.  Detailed information at this link….http://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/advice/g1798/the-10-most-toxic-items-at-dollar-stores/

  • electronic accessories contain chlorine
  • black plastic kitchen utensils contain bromine
  • flannel backed and vinyl tablecloths contain high lead
  • metal Christmas garlands contain bromine
  • silly straws contain DEHP
  • vinyl floor coverings contain chlorine and phthalates
  • holiday light strings contain cholorine and bromine
  • metal children’s jewelry contain lead
  • metallic beads contain bromine
  • window clings and removable wall stickers contain PVC

If you want to read about more dangerous chemicals in everyday products, check out these links…..

http://www.livestrong.com/slideshow/1009710-12-dangerous-chemicals-avoid-everyday-products/

http://www.breastcancerfund.org/clear-science/environmental-breast-cancer-links/household-products/

 

 

 

 

 

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If you owned a pedigree dog, would you feed it french fries?

If you owned a special animal like a pedigree dog or race horse that was considered to have great value, how would you treat it?   Most people would take great care in feeding it healthy foods, keeping it well-groomed and making sure it got plenty of rest.  You certainly wouldn’t feed it junk food like french fries and chocolate bars.  You wouldn’t leave it standing in the rain and all covered with mud.  You wouldn’t keep it up late nights exercising or doing some kind of work.

Yet, how do we treat ourselves?  We fill our bodies with unhealthy foods, don’t always take time to care for our bodies and we fill our days with so many activities that we don’t have enough time for a proper night’s sleep.  Do we not consider ourselves as valuable?  For many of us, the answer is ‘no’.  We don’t treat ourselves as the special, unique and valuable person that we are.

We have to realize that we only get one body for life and it is very important that we take good care of it.  Eating healthy foods, exercising and getting proper rest is the key to having good health and maintaining a healthy body.  If we don’t take care of ourselves, we can end up with serious health issues as we grow older.

You are much more valuable than a pedigree dog, so start taking care of your health today!

 

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Busy?

When you ask people how they are doing today, the answer is often ‘busy’.   Many people spend every waking hour involved in so many activities that they are exhausted by the end of the day.   Between work, home, children, meetings, events, shopping and various other things, there is basically no time left for any down time.  I spent most of my adult life being ‘busy’ all the time, thinking that the more I did, the more valuable I was.  What was the result?  Burnout, stress, frustration, unhappiness, depression!  Everything we do has consequences and we have to make sure we are not wasting our precious time on unimportant things.

Keeping busy is good for our health but we have to make sure that we are busy doing things that will add value to our lives.  When I was trying to be a ‘super-woman’ I did get a lot accomplished but the things I was doing didn’t account for much.  Working long hours gave me more money to spend on stuff but it didn’t give me more time to spend with my children.   Filling my time with meetings and other events helped me learn things but also gave me a lot of unnecessary stress.    I missed a lot of the important things by keeping myself so ‘busy’.

I now fully know the importance of living at a slower pace and I try very hard to take the time and enjoy life – not just rush through every day.  However, lately I’ve slipped back into being too ‘busy’.  Thankfully it is only temporary and by the New Year my life should be slowing down again.  My working hours have increased and we are also moving to a new house that needs renovations.  Once we get everything fixed up and our stuff moved in, we will be able to take it easy again.  I’m hoping that we will be all settled in by Christmas so we can enjoy the blessed season.

My posts will likely be a bit sporadic until my life gets back to normal (whatever that is) and I have some time to sit and think.  So if you ask me how I am doing in the next few weeks, the answer will be ‘busy’!!

 

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The benefits of exercise

When some of us hear the word, EXERCISE, we might be tempted to groan and say, Oh no!   Exercise requires time and effort but there are so many benefits when you get active and take care of your physical body.

If you want to feel better and enjoy good health in your later years, it is important that you do some daily exercise.    This doesn’t mean you have to join a fitness club or buy expensive exercise equipment.   It also doesn’t mean you have to spend hours a day working out.  Just taking a 20-30 minute walk each day is the best exercise you can get and it doesn’t cost anything except your time.    Walk with a family member or friend and enjoy some great conversation.

Here are the benefits of regular exercise:

  • increases energy level
  • relieves stress
  • lifts your mood
  • reduces depression
  • helps you sleep better
  • boosts your immune system
  • relieves digestive disorders
  • increases your self-esteem
  • increases your longevity

You can work hard and make all the money you want, but it won’t help you maintain good health.   Try exercising for 30 minutes each day and don’t miss a single day.  At the end of 30 days you will probably be feeling better.

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Too busy to enjoy life?

When was the last time you stopped from your busy schedule to relax and just enjoy life?  Was it yesterday, last week, last month, last year?  Do you even remember?

People today are so busy running around taking care of the family, the kids, the work, the house, the pets and a variety of other activities, that they are so worn out at the end of the day and still haven’t completed everything they wanted to.  Our to-do lists are getting longer and longer but the days don’t get any longer.   Every day has only 24 hours but we try to cram as much as possible into those hours and are never satisfied.

When are you going to start enjoying your life?    I’ve heard a lot of excuses and used most of them myself.

  • ‘I’ll start tomorrow.’  Well, we all know this won’t work because tomorrow never comes, so you can say this every day for the rest of your life.  Why not start today!
  • ‘When I get everything caught up.’  This doesn’t work because nobody ever finishes all the things they have to do.  Even if you manage to complete one task, there is always another one waiting to be done.
  • ‘When my children are grown up and move out’.  How do you know that your children will move out and if they do, maybe they will come home again.  Besides when your children have homes of their own, there will be different things to spend time doing.
  • ‘My spouse/friend/boss expects things of me.’  People will always have high expectations of you, especially if you continue to do things for them.  Being helpful is great but learn to say ‘no’ so you aren’t wearing yourself out.

Using excuses to continue rushing through life is not helping you at all.  Being too busy is harmful to your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.  It can cause stress and all sorts of health issues.  Your body is important and if you don’t take care of it, nobody else will.

You may love your work but are you getting any pleasure out of what you are doing?  You may love your family but do you allow enough time to stop working and enjoy each other’s company.  Consider the things you do and start cutting back on what you do each day.   Try to organize your tasks so that you aren’t wasting time doing things that are unnecessary and unimportant.

Look around at other people and see what they are doing.  I’ve noticed that people who are rushing around often wear a frown and a worried look on their faces.  I’ve also noticed that people who are relaxing and chatting with someone are smiling and happy.    Being too busy is certainly not the way to happiness.

If you have been busy for so long that you can’t even think about what you can do to enjoy yourself, here are some suggestions:

  • read a good book
  • take a nap
  • listen to some classical music
  • sit and meditate
  • laugh
  • go to church
  • take a walk
  • play a game
  • do a puzzle
  • go fishing
  • plant flowers
  • talk to your spouse
  • exercise
  • ride a bike
  • watch a funny movie
  • write a story
  • visit a friend
  • watch the sunrise or sunset
  • write a love letter
  • bake cookies
  • go for a picnic
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Falling is not fun

Did you know that falls are the second-leading cause of unintentional death? Not many people do.  Every day people fall in their homes which often leads to injury and possible death.  Working with seniors has made me very aware of how many things can cause a person to fall – loose or uneven flooring, slippery mats, loose railings, cracks, clutter.

In the United States, June is National Safety Month and they work hard to educate and encourage safe behaviour so slips, trips and falls can be avoided.  In Canada, we don’t have a specific month for safety awareness, however there are specific weeks during the years that bring safety issues to light.  In May we have the North American Occupational Safety and Health Week and in November we have Seniors Safety Week.

The American Recall Center has created a graphic that outlines how to prevent falls and possible traumatic injuries.  With help, we can educate our loved ones to keep their homes in a safer condition and live a healthier lifestyle.  Below is the graphic or you can read more by clicking on the following link… http://www.recallcenter.com/prevent-slips-trips-falls/

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Parents are allowing their children to become overweight

4 kidsIn today’s world, being overweight is becoming a huge issue.  More people are overweight now than ever before.  Obesity rates in Canada alone have tripled in less than 30 years!!  Unfortunately this problem often starts in early childhood and is actually allowed by parents. sometimes without them even realizing it is happening.

Children’s weight can be influenced greatly by TV and internet use.  I read an article today about 2 different studies that have been done with groups of children who were overweight.

In the first study, they broke the children into 2 groups and gave them a plan for managing their weight and weekly goals.  One of the groups was given a game console with active sports games and the other group was give a game console with less active games.  At the end of the study, the group that was following the plan and doing the active games had lost some weight.

What the researchers were trying to prove is that children need activity.  They were not promoting the use of active video games, however it likely helped the participants adhere to their goals easier.

In the second study, reports were done comparing the weight of children who watched more TV than others.   The study revealed that children who have TV in their bedrooms and who watch more TV every day will gain more weight than children who don’t sit and watch as much TV.    When people watch TV they tend to snack more and exercise less which contributes greatly to weight gain.

As parents and caregivers, we need to realize that we are hurting our children if we allow them to just sit and watch TV instead of getting up and doing something active.  We all know that once we gain weight, it is hard to take it off.  So start being a responsible parent and take care of your child’s health.   Stop allowing your child to be passive, encourage them to do something active.  The best thing you can if you love your child is turn off that TV and limit those video games!!

Here is a link to the complete story.  http://www.cbc.ca/news/health/children-s-weight-affected-by-bedroom-tvs-active-gaming-1.2558270

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X…er….size?

feet on stepperI tried to camouflage the title of this post but you already know what the topic is.  Exercise.  Most of us don’t like this word because it takes time and effort.

However exercise has so many benefits for your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.  Exercise:

  • controls weight by burning calories
  • helps prevent or manage health conditions and diseases
  • gives energy and helps build endurance
  • boosts your mood and helps you feel better about yourself
  • builds confidence and increases esteem
  • helps you sleep better
  • has a positive effect on your sex life
  • can be enjoyable, especially if you exercise with family or friends

It doesn’t have to cost a lot to have good exercise.  You don’t need special equipment and you don’t need to go to a gym.  Walking is an excellent way to exercise and it doesn’t cost anything.  Get together with some friends and take a nature walk or join a walking club.

Try to exercise for about 30 minutes a day if possible.   Always check with your doctor if you have any health concerns.

Movement is a medicine for creating change in a person’s physical, emotional, and mental states.  ~Carol Welch

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Why do you diet?

FEET ON SCALESMany people in the world are on some kind of diet to lose or gain weight.  Stats say that about 50% of the female population are on diets and many become addicted to a lifetime of dieting.   Billions of dollars are spent each year on weight loss products and services.

Why do people diet?  This can be for different reasons:

  • a desire to be healthy
  • the need to be fit for playing sports
  • getting back in shape after having a baby
  • a health issue
  • losing some weight after being ill or having surgery
  • peer pressure to look good
  • media pressure to be perfect
  • low esteem and poor body image

Who gains from dieting?  It isn’t the people who are dieting because almost 90% do not succeed.  The companies who sell products and services are the ones who gain from our dieting.  They are well aware of the fact that diets don’t work and are merely lining their pockets with our hard-earned money by promising success through quick and easy diet plans that will only result in failure.

How can we lose weight properly?  People need to realize that maintaining a healthy weight can not be bought or achieved instantly.   A proper diet takes time and effort.  WE MUST  BE PATIENT!  We do not gain weight in a few days or weeks and we CANNOT lose weight quickly.  In fact, losing weight fast can be very dangerous to our health.

Too often, dieting is the result of a more serious problem that isn’t addressed.  This could be the lack of control in certain areas of their lives and they will monitor their food intake as something they can control by overeating or undereating.

We need to understand why we are dieting and try to resolve any issues we may have that are causing us to diet.    It is important that don’t compare ourselves to other people and learn to accept our own body image.  This will help you build strong esteem and you will be able to maintain a healthy weight.

The best way to diet is to combine healthy foods with exercise, drink plenty of water and get sufficient sleep.

  • Never skip meals
  • Eat smaller portions, never supersize anything
  • Cut down fats and sugar
  • Eat fruits, vegetables, whole grains
  • Treat yourself to something you enjoy, but keep the portion small

Dieting does not have to be a constant battle if done properly.   Don’t lose the battle trying to take a shortcut.  Win the battle by taking your time.  Remember, patience is a virtue!

SOME DIET QUOTES
Don’t dig your grave with your own knife and fork.  ~English Proverb
 Your stomach shouldn’t be a waist basket.  ~Author Unknown
People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas.  ~Author Unknown
If nature had intended our skeletons to be visible it would have put them on the outside of our bodies.  ~Elmer Rice
Stressed spelled backwards is desserts.  Coincidence?  I think not!  ~Author Unknown
To lengthen your life, shorten your meals.  ~Proverb
Dieting is not a piece of cake.  ~Author Unknown
I lied on my Weight Watchers list.  I put down that I had 3 eggs… but they were Cadbury chocolate eggs.  ~Caroline Rhea

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