Whenever I go to one of the local malls, I always see people sitting alone in the common areas. Most of these people are seniors who probably don’t have a lot of contact with family and friends. They come to the mall to sit and watch people so they can at least feel like they aren’t alone. But does this really help? Does it make them feel less alone? I’ve often been in a crowd and still felt very much alone, so just being around people doesn’t fill in that empty space inside.
I feel bad for the people I see sitting alone in the mall but I give them credit for getting out of their house or apartment. Just the fact that they are getting their bodies moving, breathing some fresh air and socializing at a distance does help them in a small way. Many people who are lonely just stay inside and rarely venture out except for a doctor’s appointment or to quickly pick up a few groceries.
This is a great opportunity to give a smile away. When you see someone sitting alone and looking forlorn, make a point of getting their attention and giving them the biggest smile you can manage. I try to say hello and maybe mention something positive about the day or even compliment them on what they are wearing (if suitable). If you have a few minutes, maybe you could even sit down beside someone for a quick rest and try starting a light conversation.
Whether you give away a smile, a few kind words or a short conversation, it can make a difference in someone’s life. You may be the only one who has taken the time to acknowledge them in a long time and it could positively impact them.
Don’t pass up the opportunity to give away a smile. It costs you nothing but it can have huge rewards!
We all want people to be nice to us and treat us with respect. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who don’t even know how to treat other people with respect because they haven’t been treated very well themselves. Kindness can be contagious so maybe we could start the ball rolling. If we started being nice to other people and treating them with respect and kindness, it might affect them in a positive way. Of course, it won’t happen instantly but in time, our good example might just help teach them how to be nice.
So how do you treat other people? When someone is hurtful and mean, do you respond in the same way or do you respond with kindness. Being negative in a negative situation will never have a positive outcome! Let’s start showing people what it looks like to have a good attitude and be a kind, loving person:) What have you got to lose? Maybe some negativity?
Doing nice things for other people is a sure way to feel happiness. When you put a smile on the face of a person who is feeling bad, it always makes you feel good. Research shows that doing acts of kindness has many health benefits.
Every day I try my best to do something nice for another person and it is becoming a wonderful habit that usually brings great happiness into my life. I rarely find someone who is not accepting of a kind act and it usually brings a smile to their face.
Today I was the recipient of not one but two acts of kindness! We had a bad snow storm this morning and got a lot of snow dumped on us. My husband was at work and I trying to shovel my car out of the driveway to get to my doctor’s appointment. I looked across the street where my neighbour was also shovelling and wondered if I would get stuck in the drifts on the road. We used to have a jeep and I was never concerned about getting stuck, but a car is a different matter.
The first act of kindness happened when I asked this neighbour if he thought my car would get stuck in the drifts. He didn’t think I would get through and offered to drive me to my appointment. Being on the recipient end of an act of kindness is a really awesome feeling!
The next act of kindness happened when my husband drove me home from my appointment and we got stuck in the drifts at the end of our street. Two other neighbours, whom we had never met, came up the street and helped dig us out. Another warm, fuzzy feeling! Maybe the snow brings out the niceness in people and the need to work together. Whatever the reason, it is nice to be on both ends of an act of kindness and we should all do our best everyday to help someone.
Have you done something nice today? If not, why? Do your small part to make this world a better place:)
When we think about ourselves constantly, it causes a lot of problems. If we are thinking about ourselves in a negative way, we will dwell on our imperfections and flaws and spend our time feeling miserable and unhappy. If we are thinking about ourselves in too high a regard, we will develop an ego that is hard to keep fed and we will have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. In both cases, relationships will be very difficult.
Seriously, we have to get ourselves off our minds if we want to be a happy camper and have good relationships. This means that we have to start thinking about someone else or something else other than ourselves. This doesn’t mean that you are not important but it does mean that your problems do not define who you are and you will never find happiness until you can stop focusing on yourself.
Research shows that doing good deeds is very beneficial. It helps us physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Helping others actually relieves stress and we can sure use some stress-relief in this stress filled world! Stress is killing us and we need to start doing something that will help improve our health.
Start reducing your stress by getting yourself off your mind! Don’t focus on your problems: past, present or future. It won’t help you! Focus instead on what you can do to make someone else’s life better and take action. I did and it certainly improved my life!
Selfishness is the root of so many problems in our lives and in our world today. We want to have money; we want nice things; we want to be pampered; we want to have fun; we want to have power; we want to control everyone and everything around us. It is all about my needs and ME, ME, ME!!!
Some of us realize that we are selfish but many of us aren’t even aware of it because it has become a habit. We go through every day of our lives believing that we should have everything we want and if we do we will be happy. WRONG!! Being selfish will never make us happy except for a very short period of time. We might be happy when we get that new car, big house or promotion but when the initial excitement dies down, other problems in our lives bring back our unhappiness and discontentment.
Selfishness keeps you focused on yourself and stops you from focusing on others. If you want to be truly happy, you need to start focusing on other people and finding out what their needs are. Get your mind off yourself and look around for someone you can help. Become selfless instead of selfish.
Today think of some ways that you can help other people around you. Don’t go to bed until you can help at least 1 person every day. This can be a family member, a friend, a co-worker, a neighbour or even a stranger. Here are some ideas. Please add some of your own.
- cook a meal for a neighbour who is ill
- visit a sick friend
- babysit for a single mom or busy family (without getting paid)
- treat someone who is having financial difficulties to coffee or lunch
- shovel snow or cut grass for an elderly neighbour
- send a ‘thinking of you’ card to someone who needs some encouragement
- invite a hurting friend to a church service or small group meeting
- volunteer at a nursing home
- give a gift certificate to a co-worker who is struggling
- fill a Christmas gift basket for a needy family
- smile and say a friendly hello to everyone you meet
Niagara Canada is home to a large and growing senior population. Many seniors who have never experienced depression in their lives are developing this illness due to poor health, inability to cope with daily tasks and lack of emotional support. I often connect with clients who live alone and feel like their lives have no purpose. Sometimes when I am covering a shift for a housekeeper, a client will talk my ear off because they don’t have anyone else that will listen or they will just sit and stare into thin air until they fall asleep. My heart breaks for these people who were once so happy and full of life. They feel like nobody cares and they are just waiting to die.
What causes seniors to slip into depression? For some, their family members and friends live distantly or they have passed away. Others have family close by, but they are not able to help them due to busyness or lack of interest. Many seniors have a very active mind but they are confined to their homes because they no longer have the ability to drive or they are too ill to go out. Their lack of independence gives them lots of time and little to do which is very depressing.
It can be hard to detect depression in a senior because the symptoms can be found in other illnesses. These can include:
- lack of energy, tiredness
- difficulty concentrating
- irritable, agitated
- lack of interest
- constant worry, fear
- sleep problems
- sadness, mood changes
- physical pain
Depression affects people of all ages and we should always pay attention to the people around us and make sure they are not struggling with excessive feelings of sadness or unworthiness. Depression is a horrible illness that robs people of having a good life and it also negatively affects their families, friends, the people they work with and anyone else they connect with. We always need to give our loved ones lots of love and support, especially if they are depressed.
Look around you and see if there is anyone you can lift up with your love today. Is there a family member that you could pay a visit to? A friend you haven’t called in a while? A neighbour who doesn’t come out much? Connect with them and let them know how special they are!
Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness. ~Seneca
Every day we interact with other people, mainly our families, friends and co-workers. How often do you stop and consider how well these relationships are going? Are they loving and caring or are they difficult or challenging?
Many people would probably have trouble defining what a good, loving relationship means because they have never been in a good relationship and they wouldn’t know what to expect. Here are some ways that you can determine if your relationship is loving or not:
- unconditional love through all the good and bad situations
- trust for each other, knowing that neither will take advantage or for granted
- a mutual caring for each other’s mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health
- acceptance of the other person’s imperfections and weaknesses
- honesty and openness, able to be transparent and vulnerable
- able to express feelings without fear of being rejected
- good communication, able to listen and share
- appreciation of each other’s qualities and abilities
- learn and grow together
- share interests and spend time together
- being sensitive to each other’s needs
- challenge each other
- show respect for each other
Do you have loving relationships? If you are not treating others with love and respect, try to change the way you treat people. When you show love and kindness to others, it makes you a nicer person and people will want to be in a relationship with you. If you are not being treated with love and respect, you have to determine if the other person(s) really needs to be in your life and make any necessary changes. Treating another person with kindness is important but if they are not treating you back with respect, then you probably need to distance yourself from them. Remember that you are valuable. Always treat yourself with love and kindness and don’t allow anyone else to treat you any differently.
If someone asked who your favourite hero was, what would your answer be? There are many past and present heroes that might come to mind: John F Kennedy, Winston Churchill, Babe Ruth, Martin Luther, Christopher Reeves, Mother Teresa and the list could go on and on. Depending on your interests and where you live, certain people would stand out in your mind.
But what about the everyday heroes? The ones that do small and often unnoticed acts of kindness right in your own community. What about that nice man who lives across the road who shovels the driveways of your elderly neighbours for free? What about that co-worker who looks after the children of her friends so they can enjoy a special evening out and doesn’t charge for babysitting? What about that friend of yours who drops in with a cooked meal when you aren’t feeling well? What about that store clerk who always has some kind words to say no matter how people treat her?
There are so many people who do continuous acts of kindness everyday and we don’t even realize it. They don’t do it for recognition or reward, they are just full of love and have a caring heart. They want to share their happiness with others and they really deserve a medal. It is truly hard to be kind in a world where people are taught to be selfish and think about themselves first.
Are you a hero? Do you think about other people before yourself? How long has it been since you’ve done an act of kindness? This world would be a much better place to live in if everyone would start focusing on positive thinking and making a habit of doing daily acts of kindness. Think about it…how do you feel when someone does something nice for you? Well, it also makes you feel good when you do something nice for others….it benefits you and the other person. Wow, a double reward!! How much better can it get?
I just read a story on the website http://www.values.com about a couple who decided to make a difference and use their wedding money on giving love to others. They travelled through the United States helping with a food drive and donating goods to various locations. What an awesome way to start a marriage! That wonderful young couple is on their way to change the world. Click on the following link to read their story. http://www.values.com/your-everyday-heroes/4541-Mark-Ismini-Svensson/interview
Who is your hero? You can nominate your everyday hero and read more stories about heroes at http://www.values.com
Why not start doing your own daily acts of kindness and maybe someone will nominate you!