My husband was checking his Facebook account this morning and I was reading my emails. He likes watching the short video clips and I heard the sound of a lady’s voice screaming. When I looked to see what he was watching, it was a clip about a mother yelling and using the F word, at her child to clean up the mess in the bedroom and that she was posting this on Facebook, apparently for the purpose of shaming the child.
I know there are many parents who raise their children in this type of negative environment, but hearing and seeing this really upset me. I wrote a quick comment – ‘This is a terrible thing to do to a child. It will destroy their esteem.” I wanted to add more and tell her that she should be ashamed of herself, but I stopped myself. I’ve learned to see people from a different perspective and I realized that this women had probably been raised in a similar environment and probably thought she was doing the right thing. Some of the comments she received from other people were praising her for taking control of her child.
It’s sad that people think it is okay to raise a child by controlling them, belittling them and criticizing them. This only creates an adult who has insecurities, fears and the inability to make good choices in life. Children need to be raised in a loving, encouraging environment if they are to become responsible, caring adults.
I feel very sorry for that poor child that was criticized and put down on Facebook where everyone could see it. What a cruel form of punishment! However, I also feel sorry for that mother who didn’t know any better.
It is so important that we try to be good examples for those around us, whether they are children, teens or adults and try to model love and kindness.
Parents, please love your children with all your heart. Children are special!
In today’s world, young people have huge issues about beauty and body image. Did you know that about 2/3 of all females avoid participating in some activities because they feel bad about how they look and almost half of all males are unhappy with their looks? There is so much pressure on young girls and boys to be physically perfect and this creates all sorts of problems – stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, eating disorders, and so on.
All you have to do is read a magazine, turn on the TV or look at a computer to see images of ‘beautiful’ people living ‘perfect‘ lives. These unrealistic images of beauty become reality, especially for our young people and they become obsessed with their looks, losing all sense of their own unique identity.
Body weight has become a major issue and even though only 19% of teenage girls are overweight, about 67% think they need to lose weight. Stats show that 80% of girls have dieted by the time they are 18 – but listen to this – 40% of girls have dieted by the time they are 9!!! This just about blew me away!!! What is happening to our young people?
We need to start promoting healthy living to our younger generation. How? By becoming a positive role model and setting a good example.
Are you confident in your own abilities and do you have a strong self-esteem about your own body image? This will have a positive effect on those around you. Or are you constantly dieting, criticising your own looks and obsessed about your clothing? This will have a negative affect on those around you.
Make some positive changes in your life and then consider becoming a mentor to someone in our younger generation. There are so many young people who don’t have any positive influences in their lives and they are desperately struggling to find out who they really are. Try to make a difference in someone’s life and you will find it very rewarding!
Dove has put together a lot of ideas on how to start discussions with young people. Visit their site for some great ideas http://www.dove.ca/en/Social-Mission/default.aspx