I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Do yourself a favour

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just say a few words and create an atmosphere of peace in your life?Woman Looking at a Man Sitting Beside Her

Wouldn’t if be nice if you could avoid a few arguments and heated discussions?

Wouldn’t it be nice if you didn’t hear any complaints or criticisms?

Well, it would be nice to have total peace in your life, but this really isn’t possible.  However, you can eliminate a lot of the hassles in your life by saying a few simple words.  Some of these very powerful statements are:

  • I’m sorry
  • I forgive you
  • I was wrong
  • It’s okay
  • I understand

It isn’t easy to say some of these things, but they can have a huge impact on a situation.  Sometimes people argue and fight about things that are not really that important and we often blow things way out of proportion.   Instead of letting a difficult situation get out of control, consider apologizing or saying it is okay.  It may not necessarily be your fault or anyone’s fault for that matter, but if you can just say a few words that only take a couple of seconds, it might bring peace to an otherwise uncomfortable or difficult situation that could last for days or weeks.

Words have a lot of power.  They can heal or hurt.  They can start wars or stop wars.  They can lift up or put down.   It can be hard to apologize or say you were sorry, but think about how much peace this might bring about.

When you feel that a situation is getting out of control, do yourself a favour and say something that might save the day.

ADDITION – Another blogger suggested that I add another very powerful statement – I love you – and one that I should have thought about.  These 3 words can actually stop a person in their tracks if they are upset or angry.  I’ve done it myself and it does work.


This is a great video about acts of kindness and playing it forward.

Simple Tom

This brought a huge smile to my face, and a little tear to my eye! I thought it was absolutely beautiful 🙂

It shows the true power of what even 1 act of kindness can do!


So be a part of this wave of change 🙂






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Every addiction starts with a bad habit

blue and green world headHabits are routines of behaviour that are repeated regularly and occur without thought.   We develop habits by doing something over and over again often on a daily basis until they become part of us.   Research shows that it takes about 21 -30 consecutive days to create a new habit.

When we are children we form basic habits like getting dressed, eating, bathing, going to school.  Learning to tie shoes is a habit and once learned we don’t even think about it anymore.  As we grow we continue to develop more habits both good and bad.  The good ones help us navigate through life without spending a lot of time thinking about what we are doing.  The bad ones can become irritating issues or major problems that will eventually destroy our lives.

Addictions are just bad habits that we have allowed to control our lives.   We don’t realize that when we smoke one cigarette, drink that first drink or take that first drug that it might just become a habit.   It may not seem like a bad thing in the beginning because we can wait a few days until the next time, but too many times it becomes a daily habit and than we no longer have control over what we do.  The addiction has taken hold and our life has become unmanageable.

Children will develop their habits from what they hear and see.  If people around them are using good behaviours they are likely to develop good habits.  If people around them are using bad behaviours they are likely to develop bad habits.   Adults should be setting good examples to our younger generation so they will not develop any bad habits which could result in serious addictions.

We can become addicted to almost anything if we do it excessively and it interferes significantly with normal daily living.    This can include eating, gambling, viewing pornography, drinking caffeine, watching TV, exercising and so on.  We can even become addicted to harmful behaviours such as anger and bitterness.

If you have an addiction, try to work on breaking this out-of-control habit by creating a new habit that will take the place of the old habit.  Addictions are hard to overcome, so you will have to work hard every day and keep busy doing other things.  It will take longer than the 21-30 days it takes to form a new habit but with a lot of patience and a committment to changes, you can succeed.  Joining a support group is extremely helpful.  If you have a family member or friend who has an addiction, try to encourage them to create new habits and support them in their efforts.

Do you have any bad habits?

Have your bad habits become addictions?

Make a plan today to work on eliminating your bad habits and addictions.  You are worth it and you can do it!


The chains of habit are generally too small to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.  ~Samuel Johnson

 Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.  ~Mark Twain
A habit is something you can do without thinking – which is why most of us have so many of them.  ~Frank A. Clark 

The unfortunate thing about this world is that good habits are so much easier to give up than bad ones.  ~Somerset Maugham
Habit, if not resisted, soon becomes necessity.  ~St. Augustine
The second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has acquired during the first half.  ~Feodor Dostoevski
 Habits are at first cobwebs, then cables.  ~Spanish Proverb
 The easier it is to do, the harder it is to change.  ~Eng’s Principle
 The best way to break a bad habit is to drop it.  ~Leo Aikman
Every grown-up man consists wholly of habits, although he is often unaware of it and even denies having any habits at all.  ~Georges Gurdjieff




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A great act of kindness

Kindness can be contagious.  When you do something nice for someone else, it usually makes them feel good and in return makes you feel good.  Of course, there are always exceptions to every rule and there are people in the world who are just so miserable that they wouldn’t crack a smile for the nicest, sweetest person of all.   For those few people, they probably don’t trust anyone and it might take a while to get through to them, so keep trying if you know anyone like that.

hand holding new plantIt’s time that we all start doing our part in making this world a better place to live.  Our goal should be to do at least one act of kindness every day and even more important, not to expect anything in return.



There are all sorts of things we can do for other people:

  • smile and say hello
  • send a card, email or text
  • treat a friend to lunch
  • complement people
  •  help an elderly neighbour cut their lawn or shovel their snow
  • tell people that you appreciate them
  • hold the door open for someone
  • send an anonymous gift to someone in need

Today I watched a video about a man, Sir Nicholas Winton, who did a HUGE act of kindness 50 years ago and he totally deserves being rewarded for his actions.  I was very moved by what he did for so many people.  Amazing man!

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This is a really good lesson. Being kind to others is a definite way to find happiness in life.

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00000gty When I was a kid, my Mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my Mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed!
All my dad did was reach for his biscuit, smile at my Mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that ugly burned biscuit. He ate every bite of that thing…never made a face nor uttered a word about it!

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This video shows how changing a few words can change your whole perspective on life.

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Change your words and change your world

This is truly a fine example of how just changing your words and how you say them, can have a profound effect or change to any situation that you would never expect. 🙂


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How do you label people?

We all have a habit of labelling people even if we don’t realize it.  When we see people for the first time, we make a quick judgment on what they look like, how they talk and how they act.   This may not be an accurate picture of who they really are because people are often not showing the real person that is inside.

How would you label the following?

Successful Businesswoman

Well-dressed, talks with intelligence, acts professional.

LABEL – smart business women?

Actually they may be a couple of unemployed ladies dressed up for a job interview.



Clothing is revealing, acts distressed.

LABEL – prostitute?

Actually she may be a well-endowed teacher who is suffering from the heat and is just trying to stay cool.


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Expensive clothing, talks and acts with confidence.

LABEL – rich playboy?

Actually he may be an average joe who is wearing his only suit jacket and his $2 pair of sunglasses to impress his date.


Hands of Homeless Man with Change in Cup

Dirty and worn clothing, asking for money.

LABEL – worthless bum?

Actually he might have just lost his wife to cancer and spent all his money paying for her doctor and hospital bills, now has lost his job and his home.


When we meet someone for the first time or second or third, we don’t really know them at all, so we shouldn’t put labels on them because we don’t really know the person at all and it isn’t fair.  We take what we see on the surface and believe things that may not be true at all.   I’ve put many unfair labels on people and then found out that I was totally wrong.   Some of the people I labelled as ‘no good, loser, ignorant, stupid’ have turned out to be amazing when I finally got to know them better.   I’ve learned that people are often afraid of showing others who they really are because they might be We should give people a chance and get to know them better before we make any judgments.

What kind of label would people put on you?

What kind of picture are you showing the world?

Remember when you are labelling other people, they are also labelling you.  Make sure you are an image of the person you want to be.


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These are definitely things that can bring happiness.

Simple Tom

12 Things Happy People Do Differently

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Sticks and stones may break my bones…..

face with tear….and words will never hurt me.  Most of us have heard this silly saying and probably never thought much of it.  I used to believe that words didn’t hurt as much as being hit by an object, but words can often hurt us more than a big stick or a large stone.

When someone insults us, blames us, criticizes us or throws foul language at us, it makes a mark that can’t be seen and one that doesn’t go away quickly.  If you are hurt physically, it can hurt a lot, but eventually the pain does go away (at least in most cases).  However, if someone uses mean and cruel words, they will likely be remembered forever and continue to hurt.

Words have power and they can influence us greatly.  Kind words can comfort or heal us and be the beginning of a good relationship.  Unkind words can wound us or even kill our spirit and destroy relationships.

You can pick a person up by just smiling and saying, “Hello, how are you doing today?’  Or you can put a person down by snarling at them and telling them to get out of your way.

We need to be careful with our words and our actions so that we don’t hurt others and make them feel bad.  Too often we don’t even think about what we are saying, and we just let our feelings rule what comes out of our mouths.  We have to be responsible for our words.

Everything we say reflects what is in our hearts.  What is in your heart?  Do you hold any resentment or anger?  Do you feel pain or frustration?  These things may cause you to speak works that may hurt others.

Try to examine what is in your heart and ask yourself if your words hurt or heal.

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.

Watch your words, for they become actions.

Watch your actions, for they become habits.

Watch your habits, for they become character.

Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

~Tom Krause



Great post on how to find happiness.

Carpe Diem Moments

It is snowing, it’s windy, and it’s incredibly cold outside. The sun has disappeared the last days. I wish it was Spring already.

Sometimes we just have to create our own sunshine….. And therefore … some nice & colorful thoughts on Happiness and a good list to remember! Simple Rules for a Happy Life.  🙂 xxx

1. Make PEACE with your PAST so it does not spoil your present.

2. What others THINK of you is none of your business.

3. Time HEALS almost everything. Give the time some time.

4. No one is the reason for your own HAPPINESS.  Except you yourself.

5. Don’t COMPARE your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

6. Stop THINKING too much. It’s alright not to know all the answers.

7. SMILE. You don’t own all the problems in the world. A smile can brighten the darkest…

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