I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

An amazing man

nick croppedYesterday I wrote a short blog called “Who has made a positive difference in your life”.    This can be a tough question to answer, but if you think hard, there is probably at least one or more people who fit that description.   Today I would like to share with you a video clip about one amazing man who has definitely made a positive difference in my life.    Even though I did face some very difficult challenges, I now realize that many things were not really that important at all and I can look at life with an entirely different perspective – a positive one.

This video clip is from a recent Oprah Winfrey show…… inspired!



Who has made a positive difference in your life?

rubbing headThroughout our lives we encounter many people.   These include our families, friends, neighbours, schoolmates, co-workers, professionals and many other people that we may meet only once or just a few times.

Each one of these people has made some kind of impact on us, either good  or bad and either big or small.

Who is the person that has made a positive difference in your life?

Have you made a positive difference in the life of someone?


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Dress for success

5 friendsIf I told you to dress for success what would come to your mind?   A picture of a nice dress, a tailored suit?  Many of us think that we need to look good to be successful and this is certainly true, however being successful is not just how you look on the outside.   Success comes from your entire self, both outside and inside.

Have you ever been in a room of people when someone with a tremendous personality walks in?   It feels like the entire room lights up and becomes warmer.  People stop and turn to give their attention to this person because they exude confidence and success.   Is it because of the clothing they are wearing?  Is it because they are beautiful or handsome?  Not entirely.  They probably do look very nice, but it is their personality that shines from within.   What type of personality are you wearing?   Successful people are dressed from the inside out; their clothing is just the icing on the cake.

When I was a teen, I used to feel that wearing stylish clothing was important to having friends and being successful.   Everything I wore had to match and be without marks and flaws.  I couldn’t step out of the house without looking as perfect as possible and this attitude carried with me long into my adult years.  I realize now that the media had brainwashed me into believing everything important in life was tied up to how I looked.  How crazy is this?  People I didn’t even know were telling me how I should look and making me feel bad.  This craziness had a negative influence on my 2 daughters who were watching me and doing everything I did.   I certainly wasn’t a very good role model!

Instead of obsessing about how we look, we should try to build our confidence and increase our self-esteem so we can be happy about who we are and how we look.    It is important to try to look our best, but cost and style are not as important as having a good character and a positive attitude towards life.

Are you dressing for success?   Or are you trying to find success in your dress?


Where are you going?

You have brains in your head.   lady going up stairsYou have feet in your shoes.
You can steer  yourself in any direction you choose.
You’re on your own.  And you know what you know.
You are the guy who’ll decide where to go.
~Dr. Seuss

Dr Seuss was born in 1904 in Massachusetts.  During his lifetime he wrote 44 children’s books including The Cat in the Hat and How the Grinch Stole Christmas.

The above quote is from his book Oh, the Places You’ll Go and it very simply answers the question, ‘Where are you going?’  We all have the power within ourselves to choose where we are going in life.  If we use our brains and get moving, we will know what to do and where to go with our lives.  Too often we listen to what other people tell us and end up making choices that aren’t always good.  Instead we should be listening to ourselves and determine what choices are best for us.

This is advice from a  children’s book and it sounds pretty clear to me!


California dreaming

catalina islandI’m dreaming about California today and the sunny weather that I left behind yesterday to return to snow and freezing weather.   Leaving earlier than planned was maybe not such a good idea.

Our vacation in Los Angeles was short but we enjoyed sunny skies, miles of sandy beaches and great restaurants.  On the last day there, we traveled by boat to Catalina Island which is 22 miles across the ocean from Los Angeles.  After a short one hour trip, our boat dropped us off at Avalon, the only city on the island.  There is also a small town at the other end of the island called Two Harbours.

Catalina Island is 21 miles long by 8 miles wide at the widest point.  It is one of 8 islands in the Channel Islands archipelago and has a population of about 3500.   The island has been used for several movies, documentaries, TV programs and commercials.

It is a perfect location for a vacation or a romantic getaway.  There are some interesting hotels, including the Zane Grey Pueblo Hotel which was built in 1926 by the author Zane Grey as his home and the Inn on Mt Ada which was the home of chewing gum magnate William Wrigley Jr.

There are some great restaurants on the island including the Catalina Country Club & Golf Course.   The clubhouse originally housed the lockers for the Chicago Cubs, who were brought to the island by its owner, William Wrigley Jr. for spring training on a baseball field that was similar to Wrigley Field in Chicago.

Catalina Island has 76 square miles to explore.  You can take a tour by bus, van or jeep that will show you around the city, the ocean or the interior where you can see rare animals like buffalo and also unusual plants.  You can rent a golf cart, a bicycle, a kayak, peddle boat or segway.  You can go miniature golfing, snorkeling, diving, fishing, camping, hiking, parasailing or even zip-lining.   If you prefer a quieter vacation, you can walk, shop or relax on the beach.

We took the scenic tour which gave us a good view of the city and the surrounding area.  It was a bit scary driving up and down all those winding roads into the hillside and overlooking the ocean.  Our tour guide was extremely interesting and he kept us busy looking at all of the unique and amazing sights.  He told us about the casino where there was no gambling, the post office that didn’t deliver mail, the bird park that didn’t have any birds and about the dead dog trees that had no bark (ha-ha!).

Catalina Island would be a great place to live.  The climate is moderate all year round, the scenery is beautiful, there is little crime and not much pollution.  Cars are limited to only 800 and residents must go on a waiting list that can take 10-15 years.   This causes many people to drive golf carts which is probably a good thing because gas costs over $7 gallon!

It was a wonderful day and a perfect end to a great trip.  I’m looking forward to another visit next year which may include a cruise!





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Do you choose to stay stuck?

Some very good points made in this blog.

Life...Outrageously Real Insights.

There is a cliché that says, “The only constant is change.” I believe it is true. All around us, the world is in constant motion. People moving … cars flying by … kids in a constant state of movement … time stopping for no one. You get the picture. So tell me, why is it that in all of that constant change — all of that energy and movement — some people just cannot seem to get out of the rut of life. The truth: it is a choice. People stay stuck in the places in life they say they don’t want to be because they choose to remain in the ruts that put them there.

Life isn’t a movie and this sure isn’t “Groundhog Day!”

If you seriously want to have a better life, then you have to make the decision to get yourself out of the rut you…

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Time for a vacation

carry suitcaseIt’s been over a year since my last vacation and I really need a break.  Life is pretty hectic for me at times and I’ve been feeling the stress.  My week is filled with work, writing, reading, cooking, cleaning, babysitting, attending church, small groups and running around doing errands.  Just the typical female who tries to do way too much.  I keep forgetting there are only 24 hours in a day and I have to take time out to sleep.

Today I’m flying to Los Angeles with my family to visit my sister for a couple of weeks.  It will be an interesting flight.  My 18 month old grandson is going and he is a very active child.  Los Angeles has nice weather this time of year and you can still go out some days in a t-shirt, shorts and sandals.  My sister lives just a few miles from the beach and I can walk down to sit in the beautiful white sand and watch the waves roll in.   Some days you can even catch some surfers.

I’ve been struggling as to whether I should take my laptop with me so I can do some work and write some blogs, but my ‘practical’ self won over my ‘stubborn’ self and I decided to leave it home.  If I am near someone else’s computer I may just write a quick blog, but if not I’ll be taking a break for the next couple of weeks.

Looking forward to some warmer weather.  I love Canada but I sure don’t enjoy the cold winters.

Blogging again soon!!

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Failing does not make you a failure

clip lady on stageEveryone fails many times in their lives and too often people feel like this makes them a failure.  Wrong!! FAILING at doing something DOES NOT make you a failure.  You can convince yourself that you are a failure, but this isn’t true.

Failure is inevitable because we are human.  Failure is inevitable because we are not perfect.  Humans are imperfect creatures and will never be able to live life without failure.

Society tries to convince us that we need to work hard at becoming perfect.   Every day we see unrealistic images of beauty and watch programs about people living perfect lives.  Everywhere you look there are magazines, posters, billboards and other advertising that shows successful, beautiful, perfect people.   We are programmed to believe that there is something wrong with us and that our lives are a failure.  Success is only possible when you have beauty, money, power and possessions.  Wrong, wrong, wrong!

Basically this concept makes everyone in the world a failure.  Nobody can reach those high expectations.  Nobody is perfect and we never will be no matter how hard we try.

Failure can be a good thing when it helps you learn and grow.  Failure can be a bad thing when you give up and stop trying.

Many successful people in life have failed including Walt Disney, Abraham Lincoln, Lucille Ball, the Beatles, Henry Ford and many others.  There are several video clips on youtube about ‘famous failures’.  Here is a link to one of them –

When you fail at something you will probably feel bad at first.   But don’t keep feeling that way.  Instead look at what happened, figure out how you can do better next time and  try again.  Thomas Edison failed 3000 times before the light bulb was created.  Edison said, “I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  What if he had given up?  We’d all still be in the dark!

The only time that you are a failure is when you give up trying.  So don’t give up!  Keep on going!



Taking time for yourself

Young Woman Sitting and Holding a Cup of CoffeeStress is a terrible thing.  It affects your physical, emotional and mental being, causing all sorts of problems for your mind, body and soul.  There are numerous physical and mental illnesses that result from stress and sometimes we don’t even realize what is happening until it is too late.

We often forget to take care of our own health in the busyness of everyday life.  Family and work life is demanding and we struggle to get everything done.  Stress can be building over a period of weeks, months and years before we even realize what is happening.  Then burnout happens.  We start to break down physically, emotionally and mentally.   Not taking the time to care for ourselves, will result in the need for others to care for us.

Everyone needs to take time away from the everyday stresses to relax, rejuvenate, replenish, and restore their mind, body and soul.  Wellness is important to wellbeing.  Getting completely away from the environment that is causing you stress is the best way to recover.  Find a quiet place where you can relax.  There should be no distractions, no phones, no TV or radio, just the sounds of nature.  Water is especially soothing.

Spend at least 30 minutes a day by yourself reading or meditating.  Don’t feel like you are neglecting your responsibilities, you are taking care of yourself so you will be able to handle them.  Let your family and friends know that you are not hiding, but need some time out from stress.  Suggest they do the same thing. Then take a few days once or twice each year to really work on your personal wellness.

Going on a trip or to a cottage is a great idea.  This could be your journey to self-discovery.  Here are some suggestions for what you can do while you are there.


  • find a comfortable place to sit and focus on something that is calming to you – a word, an idea
  • try to keep your mind quiet and let go of any negativity and busyness
  • if you can be near water, this can be very helpful – waves, waterfall
  • sunrise and sunset are perfect times – listen to the sounds of nature
  • walking while meditating will help make you more aware of your body and is beneficial to your health
  • listen to a relaxing tape or CD while you walk


  • certain activities can be very relaxing and are good exercise for your body
  • Yoga is a popular form of relaxation
  • Hiking and Biking will benefit your health – pay attention to the nature around you


Doing something you like is fun and relaxing.  When was the last time you put together a jigsaw puzzle, did a crossword or played solitaire (not on the computer).  There are many things that you can do to eliminate stress and promote wellness

  • ·Handicrafts, scrapbooking, painting
  • ·Reading is a great idea – read some self-help books or learn something new – stay away from romance and adventure
  • ·Watch some old movies or listen to soft music

These are just a few suggestions.  There are many more things you can do.  What are some things that you would like to do?

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Silly stuff

Here’s some silly stuff to ponder.  Got any answers?

  • Why doesn’t McDonald’s sell hotdogs?
  • At a movie theater which arm rest is yours?
  • Why do doctors leave the room when you change? They’re going to see you naked anyway.
  • If you dug a hole through the center of the earth, and jumped in, would you stay at the center because of gravity?
  • How far east can you go before you’re heading west?
  • Why is it that everyone driving faster than you is considered an idiot and everyone driving slower than you is a moron?
  • If a kid refuses to sleep during nap time, are they guilty of resisting a rest?
  • Is it rude for a deaf person to talk (sign) with their mouth full of food?
  • What’s the difference between normal ketchup and fancy ketchup?
  • Why is the Lone Ranger called ‘Lone’ if he always has his Indian friend Tonto with him?
  • When does it stop being partly cloudy and start being partly sunny?
  • Are eyebrows considered facial hair?
  • Is there a time limit on fortune cookie predictions?
  • Since bread is square, then why is sandwich meat round?
  • Do they have the word “dictionary” in the dictionary?
  • Can you daydream at night?
  • Can crop circles be square?
  • If a doctor suddenly had a heart attack while doing surgery, would the other doctors work on the doctor or the patient?
  • If laughter is the best medicine, who’s the idiot who said they ‘died laughing’?
  • Why does the Easter bunny carry eggs? Rabbits don’t lay eggs.
  • If parents say, “Never take candy from strangers” then why do we celebrate Halloween?
  • Why is it called a funny bone, when if you hit it, it’s not funny at all?
  • Do you yawn in your sleep?
  • If a bee is allergic to pollen would it get the hives?
  • Why does a round pizza come in a square box?
  • If you put a chameleon in a room full of mirrors, what color would it turn?
  • Why do we press the start button to turn off the computer?
  • Do sheep get static cling when they rub against one another?
  • Why are the numbers on a calculator and a phone reversed?
  • Do butterflies remember life as a caterpillar?
  • What is another word for “thesaurus”?


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