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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

The egg lesson

chicken holding eggHow much does an egg weigh?  Not much, maybe a few ounces.  So it wouldn’t be too heavy to hold for a while, right?

If I asked you to hold your hand out and placed an egg in your palm, how long do you think you could hold it before you would start to feel pain in your hand and arm?  A few seconds, a minute, an hour, all day?

You could probably hold it for a few minutes before your hand and arm started to hurt and feel numb, but you would not likely be able to hold it all day or even for an hour.

Now, an egg is certainly not heavy, so why would you feel more pain the longer you held it in your hand?  It doesn’t get any heavier just because you hold it longer.

How could you avoid having pain?   The answer is easy.  Just let the egg go back in the tray.

What is the life lesson that we can learn from the egg?  The egg represents our problems.  If we hold on to our problems for just a short period of time and then let them go, we don’t feel much pain.  However, the longer we hold on to our problems, the more pain we have.  If we continue to hold on to our problems day after day, we can become paralyzed with pain and we will stay stuck in one place.

We have to learn to let go of our problems as quickly as possible so we can continue to move ahead in life.  How can we do this?  Here are some ideas:

  • admit that you have a problem
  • understand that this problem is causing you pain
  • be willing to feel your pain
  • take action to resolve the problem if this is possible
  • work on overcoming your fears
  • talk to someone you can trust
  • believe in a higher power whom you can release your problem to

Try not to continue hanging on to your problems.  They are hurting you and causing unnecessary pain and stress.  Write down your problems and really look at them.  Are they worth carrying with you throughout life?

More relationships are destroyed by holding onto problems that are not even worth the time and effort we spend on them.  Every day has new situations that need to be faced and we should be ready to deal with these instead of dragging around old problems.   At the end of each day, take action to resolve any problems that have come up and start each day fresh with no added stress from the past.

Don’t hold on to that egg any longer that you have to!  Let it go and release your burden.  Enjoy your life, you deserve it!happy face with bird

 

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Fear of failure

Fear of failure is one of the biggest fears that people have. We have to realize that everyone makes mistakes and it is part of life. Fact is, the most successful people have made many mistakes before they were successful.

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FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real

Fear is a terrible feeling.   We’ve all experienced it.  Everyone is likely to fear something.   Children are often afraid of the dark or scary monsters.  As we grow into adults we can develop fears of  anything or anybody.

Fear is important as it gives us a response to physical and emotional danger but too often we fear things that are not life-threatening and then fear steals our time and energy.

Most of our problems are linked to fear.  People are afraid of failure, being laughed at, being hurt, being poor, being lonely.  People are afraid of spiders, snakes, mice, wild animals.  I didn’t realize there were so many different types of fears.  People suffer from an endless variety of phobias that seem very strange, but are also very real.  Here are some unusual ones:

  • Porphyrophobia – fear of the colour purpleSignature:baed3687aecc9fc02b05e033f52ab04b5ac34144c6f0702c4e0cfe36f9d34041
  • Chaetophobia – fear of hairy people
  • Odontophobia – fear of teeth
  • Dextrophobia – fear of objects on the right side of the body
  • Nomophobia – fear of being out of mobile phone contact
  • Scopophobia – fear of being looked at
  • Phagophobia – fear of swallowing
  • Alektorophobia – fear of chickens
  • Chionophobia – fear of snow
  • Ergophobia – fear of work
  • Mycrophobia – fear of small things
  • Phobophobia – the fear of being afraid

The only way to get over your fear is to face them head-on, especially if they are causing problems in your life.  When I was a child I had recurring dreams of drowning, so I developed a fear of water and I panicked whenever I went out in a boat or was swimming.  I overcame this fear as an adult by taking swimming lessons – at first I was terrified, but now I am able to go into the water with a minimum of fear.   I have other fears, like a fear of heights and fear of snakes but these are ones that don’t really stop me from living my life.  If your fears are paralyzing or debilitating, you should seek professional help.  Don’t keep running from your fears or stay in bondage for the rest of your life, get some help and learn how to become confident enough to face your fears.

Remember most of your fears are not real at all – they are just False Evidence Appearing Real!  Don’t let your fears control your life!

Some quotes about fear……..

Feed your faith and your fears will starve to death.  ~Unknown

There are very few monsters who warrant the fear we have of them.  ~Andre Gide

Fear cannot take what you do not give it.  ~Christopher Coan

Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.  ~German Proverb

He who fears something gives it power over him.  ~Moorish Proverb

 

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