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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

I am no longer proud to be Canadian

Our veterans who fought in World War 1 and 2 risked their lives to keep Canada safe and free.  Those brave soldiers would be greatly appalled at what is happening to our country right now.  Our freedoms are being quickly taken away from us.  Many people are willingly allowing themselves to be brainwashed by mainstream media and have lost all ability to think logically and clearly, allowing themselves to fear sickness and death, something that we face every single day of our lives and until now, have never been afraid of.  People are blindly following restrictions and rules set up by our government and so-called experts that are not even based on scientific data, do not make any sense at all and are actually against our constitution.  There isn’t much going on right now that would give me any reason to be a proud Canadian.
Scientific data clearly shows there is NO emergency and no need for wearing masks, taking tests or social distancing.  Hundreds of doctors and experts have stated over and over again for the past few weeks that this is not a pandemic, only another annual flu that unfortunately can cause serious illness to those who are elderly and those in poor health.  I feel very badly for anyone who gets sick for ANY REASON.  ALL deaths are terrible but people seem to be fixated on covid and completely ignore any other illnesses or deaths.  Compassion for all people seems to have gone out the window.    There is NO reason to keep healthy people locked down or making them wear masks.  There should be restrictions put in place ONLY for those who are at risk.  People who are against this lockdown have been called irresponsible but in my opinion, our government has been irresponsible, causing more deaths and distress by keeping people in fear and imposing unnecessary restrictions.  Any doctor who backs these restrictions obviously is being forced to comply or has their own agenda.
I have sent letters to government officials stating how I feel, sending them articles with correct information and asking questions.  I usually get a form response with no answer to any of my questions.  Here are a few:
  • Why do we hear about increasing cases every day when these are not people who are ill or even deaths?  It should be good to know that so many people have tested positive because they have already been ill, so this is actually a good thing and it will lead to herd immunity and help the virus die out naturally.  Is the purpose just to keep people scared?
  • In a world population of 7 billion people, only about 500,000 people have died from covid (although this is questionable because doctors are being told to list all deaths as covid).  This is lower than the death rate for the annual flu so it is NOT a pandemic and why is it still being treated as a major disaster?
  • Why is it safe for people to sit at a table in a restaurant for an hour or more, eating and talking without wearing masks BUT it is not okay to shop in Walmart for a hour without wearing a mask?
  • Why is it safe enough to spend half an hour at the dentist having our teeth cleaned or getting a checkup without a mask but have to wear a mask while sitting alone in the chair waiting for the dentist?
  • Why is it necessary to traumatize kids when they go back to school with social distancing and masks when there is NO evidence that they will get sick?
Every day I do at least 2-3 hours of research, reading articles and watching videos from top scientists, doctors, lawyers, alternate media and I admire all the hundreds of experts that are willing to stand up for what is right and share the truth, often at personal cost.  They are my heroes and they are fighting to take our world back before we all become one global community run by communists.  Holding people hostage with a pandemic of fear WILL destroy our country.  If Canada falls, we ALL fall.  If we allow our freedoms to be taken away, ALL of us lose.  If we become a communist country, we will ALL have to abide by very strict laws.
I care deeply about people and I am very concerned about the future of our country and the safety and welfare of our children and grandchildren.  What kind of world will they grow up in?  Will they have any freedoms at all?  I can’t do much because I am just a poor senior but I will fight in any way I can for the rights of my family and my grandchildren.  I will also keep praying because I know that God is still in control of this world and He will ultimately bring justice.   Please stop listening to mainstream media and corrupt leaders and start searching for the truth.  Many people are being silenced but there is still a lot of truth out there.  Check Rebel News and Fox News (they are mainstream but they are reporting the truth).  Then stand up for your family, your country and your God-given rights!

 

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Disappointed in our ‘new normal’ world

There is nothing normal about our world right now and I doubt things will ever be the same. This could be a good thing because there are a lot of things wrong with our world. What breaks my heart is that so many people are suffering unnecessarily because of the steps taken to try and protect us from a virus that many experts are now saying is no more dangerous than the annual flu and that this lockdown is actually doing more damage to our health, causing more deaths than covid. Suicides from isolation have already increased tremendously, thousands of people are dying from cancelled surgeries and many new serious health problems are not being addressed.

The lockdowns were supposed to be short term until the curve was flattened to alleviate too much stress on the health system. Then it was extended to stop the spread and now many places are still locked down either fully or partially to wait for a vaccine that could damage our health or kill us. I am certainly not very comforted by that thought.

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WHO is teaching your children?

As our children grow, they learn from everyone and everything around them.  They see and hear all sorts of things that catch their attention and they will try to imitate many of them.  When they are seeing and hearing positive things, it is a good thing and this will have a positive effect on their lives.  However, many of the things they hear and see are not very positive and could have a devastating effect on their lives.

Parents should be the main teacher for their children and be providing them with a positive example to follow.  However,  many parents today do not spend a lot of time with their children due to a busy schedule or lack of awareness in how to parent a child properly, and their children are left to finding guidance in other ways.  This could be from other family members or friends who may or may not be the best teachers.  Some children are left a lot in the hands of the TV or Media babysitter, who will certainly teach your children to be selfish, disrespectful, greedy and to expect the world to give them whatever they desire.  Is this the kind of child you want??  Is this the kind of child the world needs??  Of course not!!

We need to teach our children to be kind, loving and to respect other people so they will become responsible and confident adults.  Children want to communicate with their parents and to spend time with them.   If we are too busy to teach our children, they will learn from someone or something else.

So, WHO is teaching your children?

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Who is the media?

The media gets blamed for a lot of the problems in the world and rightly so.  Every day we are bombarded with images that influence the way we think about ourselves and others.  We see images of beautiful people living perfect lives that make us feel like there is something wrong with us.  We see ads that tell us we need to buy certain products in order to be accepted and loved.  Our confidence takes a hit and we become a person who feels unworthy and inferior to everyone else.

So, who is the media?  Who is telling us the lies that we are not good enough, that we don’t measure up and that we have no value?  It is not just a screen or an image that we see.  The media is comprised of people just like you and me.  It is people who are creating these images that have a profound influence on us.  We are influenced by everyone and everything that goes on around us.  These influences can be positive or they can be negative.

The ads that promote beauty products are most often created by women.  It is women that are tearing other women down!  Did you ever consider this?  The ads they create tell us:

  • we don’t look good enough (FOR WHAT?)
  • we are too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, etc….(COMPARED TO WHAT RIDICULOUS STANDARD?)
  • we don’t measure up (TO WHAT?)
  • we need to buy their products in order to have friends and be successful (WHY IS OUR FUTURE DEPENDENT ON THEM?)

We need to stop believing what the media tells us. Next time you want to believe something that the media is telling you, stop and consider who is really speaking to you.  The media is just a bunch of strangers who don’t know anything about you and don’t really care who you are.   All they want is to make you feel bad about yourself so they can line their pockets with your hard-earned money.   Don’t believe their lies.   We DO have value.  We ARE good enough.  We DO measure up.  We DO NOT need their products to be a productive and successful human being.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Our value lies in who we are, not in what we look like or what we have.

 

 

 

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Why I don’t watch much TV

When I was raising my children, I used to enjoy watching some great programs on TV.  We would sit together as a family and watch Little House on the Prairie, The Waltons or Eight is Enough.  If you don’t recognize those names, they were programs from the 70’s and they were wholesome, family viewing.  You didn’t have to worry about your children hearing or seeing anything that was inappropriate.

Today, there is really little on TV that is even worth watching.  In my opinion, there are few programs that are suitable for all ages, but most of the programs show too much violence, sex and the language leaves a lot to be desired.   Our young people are learning that it is okay to engage in activities that are inappropriate, dangerous to their health and damaging to their relationships.  The media promotes violence and sex as being exciting and rewarding when the exact opposite is true.

 

A few days ago, I was sitting with my husband watching TV.   He can’t just sit in our living room and not watch the TV, so when we eat supper, I sit with him and watch a game show.  A commercial came on about some marvelous product that women simply can’t do without.   There was a nice-looking lady talking to a man about some wonderful cream that reversed the aging process.  She even had a small tube of it that you could carry in your purse.  Isn’t that great!  If you happen to feel a wrinkle coming on while you are out, you can just reach in your purse and apply the cream.  Then poof….the wrinkle disappears.  How ridiculous is that?  The problem is, there will be many insecure women who will rush to the phone to buy the product.   Then when the product doesn’t work, these poor women, who are already emotionally damaged, will feel even worse believing it is because something is wrong with them.  It is so sad that companies prey on weak people just to make a buck.

We should be working together to help people feel good about themselves and not be making them feel bad about their self-image.  I meet so many people in my coaching, both women and men, who are so broken and insecure, that they will believe anyone who promises to fix their lives.

What are you watching on TV?  What are your children watching on TV?  Does it help you or hurt you?  Don’t let the media tell you that there is something wrong with how you look.   Instead of trying to find a magic potion to keep us younger or make us good about ourselves, we should be working hard to live a healthy lifestyle – eating properly, exercising and eliminating any bad habits that affect our health.  Then we wouldn’t have as many wrinkles to erase and excess weight to lose.  We would look younger and healthier and stay active well into our senior years.

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Help your children build esteem

It is so important that we teach our children how to build their confidence and maintain a strong esteem.  Young people struggle today with their body image, feeling insecure and having distorted ideas about their appearance.   Media pressures are extremely powerful and can have disastrous effects on a child who lacks confidence in their abilities and has very little esteem.   They need the support of parents who can be positive role models that demonstrate through example how to feel good about their own self-image.

When your children are small, start helping them build confidence by working alongside them to master their abilities and skills, supporting them when they fail and encouraging them to try again.  When children feel that they are loved and valued, they will become confident and this will build their esteem.    If you are a parent who lacks confidence and has low esteem, work hard to make positive changes in your own life so you can help your children become confident, responsible adults.  Don’t let your children struggle with feelings of insecurity, believing what the media tells them and allowing bullies to have a negative effect on their thinking.   The article below shows the devastating effects that bullies have on insecure teens.

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/apr/16/bullied-teenagers-increasingly-want-to-have-cosmetic-surgery-says-survey

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Is childhood becoming extinct?

Many child psychologists and therapists are in agreement on one thing – children today are becoming adults too soon.  In reading various articles and also from personal observation, I am in total agreement with this.  Everywhere I go, I see young children dressing provocatively, using language that is inappropriate and acting in ways that would have embarrassed me at their age.  Instead of enjoying the few short years of their childhood, they are trying to be mini adults.

So why is this happening?  It is because many parents are pressuring their children to become responsible for themselves at a young age.  They allow them to make their own choices and often try to be a friend instead of a parent.  In many homes there are no restrictions as to what children watch on TV or the computer.  Children often watch the same programs and movies as adults do which causes them to be exposed to sex and violence at a very early age.   Children can’t handle this information emotionally, physically and spiritually and the result is early sexual activity, teen pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and violent behaviour.   This results in relationship issues, problems in school, low esteem, eating disorders, addictions, depression and possibly even suicide.

Children are a gift and we should treat them with special care.  We don’t need to show other people that our children are smarter, faster or better looking.  We don’t need to tell our children that they are better than someone else.  We  don’t need to help them grow up any faster than they need to.  Children need to be children.  They need to play and explore.  They need to be loved, appreciated and respected.

Do your children a favour and allow them to be a child.   We have enough adults in the world.  Don’t let childhood becoming something that is extinct.

Which child would you rather have?  The one that looks like a serious model or the one that looks like she is having fun being a kid?

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Don’t parents care what their children watch?

This week I was having lunch with a friend at a local McDonald’s restaurant and as I was eating my nuggets meal, I happened to glance at one of the large screens on the wall.   Usually there is some kind of news programme and I don’t pay much attention, but this time there was a nude man going across the screen.  I was both disgusted and appalled to see something like this being shown at a family restaurant.   There were several children present who should not have been viewing this nudity.   If my young grandchild had been with me, I would have covered his eyes and taken him out of the restaurant immediately.  I did soon leave but not until I noticed that the parents with the children did absolutely nothing.  They looked at the screen but didn’t even stop eating or seem upset in any way.

This really doesn’t surprise me because I have been in people’s homes where children are being exposed to content that is inappropriate for their age.  However, it does bother me very much.  Children are watching far too many things today that are hurting them and affecting them in a negative way.  Research has shown that children who are exposed to adult content at an early age are more apt to engage in poor behaviours such as drinking, drug use, having casual sex, viewing pornography, becoming violent.  You can read the following article from Psychology Today that explains in more detail.   http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/real-healing/201208/overexposed-and-under-prepared-the-effects-early-exposure-sexual-content

I just don’t understand why parents don’t seem to care what their children watch.   When I was growing up,  I was not allowed to watch anything with mature content and I was very restrictive about what my children watched.  I knew they would see and hear things in the world outside our home, but they were taught what was acceptable and they knew what was right and wrong.   I have actually talked to some parents who don’t think there is any point in bothering to restrict what their children see and hear because they will just learn it anyway in the outside world, so they just give up and don’t even try to protect them.  This is a very bad attitude.  When children are brought up in an environment that teaches love and respect, they will be able to make better choices when they do encounter things that are inappropriate.  Children need a solid foundation and if they don’t have one, their world will crumble and fall.

We need to be responsible adults and help the children around us to become strong and know how to make good choices.  They need to know right from wrong and good from bad.  This is one tough world to grow up in and they need all the support they can get.   Children are a gift from God and they are the future of our world.   Let’s start caring for them the way we should.

 

 

 

 

 

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Surprised when your child shows violence?

aggressive silhouetteWe should not be surprised when we see children display violence.   Many people allow their children to watch violent acts on TV or play violent video games, let them look at magazines and books that portray violent acts.  Then when they act out aggressively, we wonder why.

Violence is accepted as normal and we are becoming immune to these horrible acts.  When we hear news about killings, terror or atrocities, we don’t get upset or even shed a tear to show that we care.   Watching these violent acts every day is having a negative affect on our children and we don’t even realize how much harm is being caused.  The same goes for children who are allowed to watch sexual acts on TV or see nude pictures in magazines.

What are the results of exposure to violence?  Children:

  • develop fear and anxiety – they see the world as dangerous and unsafe
  • will model violent behaviours and will imitate violent acts
  • will become more aggressive (kicking, hitting, fighting, playing rough) and destructive (breaking things)
  • will become desensitized and lose their sense of empathy – not caring about what happens to other people

The American Psychological Association says that babies as young as 12 months will react to what they see on TV.  The American Association of Pediatrics recommends that children under 2 years of age not watch TV at all and instead should be encouraged to play more interactive activities (talking, playing singing, reading) to promote proper brain development.  Research shows again and again that children who watch violent TV programming will show violent tendencies as adults.

It is the responsibility of parents and caregivers to protect their children from anything that will harm them.   We can’t hide them from the world, but we can give them a solid foundation by raising them in a loving, caring environment.  Help them deal with any anger or aggression in a positive way and teach them what is right.  Be a good example and only watch decent family programming.  Better yet, turn of the TV!

 

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The Tender Twenty Paradox (and Miley’s big mistake)

A very well written piece on Miley Cyrus!

The Beggar's Bakery

By: Jana Greene

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I must admit that curiosity got the best of me, and I watched the clip of the Miley Cyrus debacle at the MTV VMA awards.

My first reaction was total disgust. Miley is only twenty years old! And then a primal urge to find this world-famous woman-child, and smother her in hugs. Sometimes the mother in me just overwhelms every other instinct.

She is so in-between.

In her racy act, her suggestive wardrobe and antics  tried to convey woman; but her poor judgment screams child.

Her ‘twerking’ tells the world she knows what to do with her lady parts, but the fact that she flaunted her lady parts publically lets us all know that she is still a child. Or that she is high on more than just life, or could be mentally unstable. There is more to being a grown-up than grinding. Nothing says “paradox” like…

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