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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Be patient…

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Today is a brand new day

Don’t you just love waking up in the morning and realizing that today is a brand new day?  No?  Well, you aren’t alone.  Many people don’t like mornings.  I used to be one of those people who woke up dreading the day and feeling just terrible.                                 

The average, healthy, well-adjusted adult gets up at seven-thirty in the morning feeling just plain terrible.  ~Jean Kerr, Please Don’t Eat the Daisies, 1957

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Nothing good was going to happen, so what was the point in even getting up?  It was a constant fight with myself to get out of bed and get ready for work.  “I don’t want to get up.”  “I don’t feel good.” “I don’t want to talk to anyone.”  There were all sorts of arguments that I tried on myself.  Of course, I had to work, so I dragged myself out of bed.

I’d like mornings better if they started later.  ~Author Unknown

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Now, I love waking up in the morning knowing that today is a brand new day and that everything is new and fresh.    I hear the sounds of the traffic, the birds singing, a dog barking and I am thankful that I can hear.  I see the sun shining, the raindrops falling or the snowflakes drifting to the ground and I am thankful that I can see.  I can smell the coffee perking and the bacon cooking and I am thankful that I can smell.   When I get out of bed, I am thankful that I have legs to walk on.  When I hug my family, I’m thankful that I have arms to use.  There are so many things to be thankful for, I wonder why I ever hated getting up in the morning.

The moment when you first wake up in the morning is the most wonderful of the twenty-four hours.  No matter how weary or dreary you may feel, you possess the certainty that, during the day that lies before you, absolutely anything may happen.  And the fact that it practically always doesn’t, matters not a jot.  The possibility is always there.  ~Monica Baldwin

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How did I change from being a miserable morning person to someone who enjoys the mornings?  It is all about perspective.  If you are like many people who have a negative perspective, as soon as you get up in the morning, you will focus on all the negatives in your life and be miserable.  If you work hard on developing a positive perspective, you will be able to see the positives in life and start your day on a positive note.

Be pleasant until ten o’clock in the morning and the rest of the day will take care of itself.  ~Elbert Hubbard

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Here are some ideas on how to change your perspective:

  • practice saying daily positive affirmations
  • consciously stop your negative thoughts
  • change your negative words into positive words
  • create positive habits
  • surround yourself with positive people, places and things
  • fill your emotional tank with positive fuel
  • think about all the things you can be thankful for

For more information and ideas, visit my website at www.imconfident.com

You can also download my Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook by visiting my website and clicking on the Bookstore tab.

 

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You’re alive – let’s celebrate!!

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If anything can go wrong, it will…..

Most of us have heard the phrase, ‘If anything can go wrong, it will.”   This statement is commonly referred to as Murphy’s Law which has been around for a long time and also referred to as Sod’s Law.  The exact origin of this statement is not certain, however it is often attributed to Edward A. Murphy, who was an engineer working on an Air Force project.  One day he discovered a problem with some wiring and being upset with the technician, he said, “If there is any way to do it wrong, he’ll find it.”  The project manager kept a list of ‘laws’ and added this new statement which he called Murphy’s Law.

I can certainly coin this phrase when I refer to my recent two-day vacation.  Shortly after we left our house on Thursday morning, things started going wrong and continued on for the rest of the day.  We had packed up our food, clothing, camping equipment and bikes, loading them all in our truck and small fishing boat.  Everything was secured and we drove off with one our dogs (no, we didn’t leave our other dog at home alone, it was staying at our daughter’s house because they don’t always behave when they are together).  It was great just listening to the music and anticipating a couple of relaxing days.

About 20 minutes after leaving, my husband said to me, “Did you bring the tent?”  I looked at him and replied, “No, I got all the inside stuff ready, I thought you were getting all the outside stuff ready.”  I was thinking, “Are you kidding me?  I packed all the clothes, the food, the cooler, the bedding, the cooking stuff and you are asking me about the tent?  Would that not be in the same location as the camp chairs, the tarps and the boat?”  Needless to say, we had to backtrack and pick up the tent.  Oh well, at least we weren’t far from home.  You have to look at things with a positive perspective and no point blaming anyone.  We should have both thought about it.

We got to the campsite with the boat and wouldn’t you know it – there was no boat launch at this campsite.  I just assumed it would have one because it was right on Lake Erie.  We could have travelled 10 minutes to the next town and launched it from there, but we decided not to bother.  We still could ride around on the bikes or walk to the beach.

The campsite was large and had lots of trees.  It didn’t take long to set up the tent and get things organized.  Then we sat in our comfy camp chairs and relaxed.  After reading for a while, it was time to make supper, so we brought out the stove to cook some hamburgers.  I’m nervous cooking with gas, so I asked my husband to lit the burner.  He asked for the matches and guess what?  I forgot to bring any.  Good thing there was a camp store.

After eating our yummy hamburgers, we took a walk with our dog.  Then it was time for a campfire.  The day had been tiring and we soon decided to make it a day and turn in for the night.   We got the dog settled in her bed, put on our pajamas and went to bed ourselves.  The night had been getting cooler and as I was drifting off to sleep, I didn’t feel very warm.  The summer nights had been warm so I only brought a set of sheets and one comforter.   Oh well, if I felt cold, I could always put on my sweatshirt.

One problem that I have every night is waking up at least once or twice to use the bathroom and this night was no exception.  It was probably about midnight and I felt very uncomfortable.  As I turned over, my bottom hit the cold, hard floor.   Had I rolled off the air mattress?  Quickly I realized that the air had deflated.  My husband tried to blow it up, but there was obviously a leak.  We tried to go back to sleep, but we were both freezing at that point.  No, one comforter was definitely not enough.  The temperature had dropped considerably.  We both put on sweatshirts and socks.  It helped, but it was a very long and uncomfortable night.

The next day we took a drive into the town close by and bought a couple of warm sleeping bags and fixed the leak in the air mattress.  Thankfully, the second day went well and we were both warm and comfy at night.  As we campingheaded home on Saturday morning, I reflected on the past couple of day and decided that it had been a good vacation after all.  Next month we plan on taking another mini-vacation but this time I will be more prepared.

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Have you been kind today?

give surprise giftThe advantages of being kind are endless.  When you are kind to someone, it makes that person feel good and they will likely be kind to someone else and this can keep on going for a long time.

Acts of kindness are good for your own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.

When other people see you doing acts of kindness, it can also benefit them and encourage them to do the same.  However, doing acts of kindness it should come from your heart as the result of wanting to be nice to someone, not just so you are noticed by others.

What can you do today to be nice to someone else?  Can you smile and say a friendly ‘hello’ to that person who seems sad?  Can you open a door for that senior who is walking with a cane or walker?   Can you buy a coffee for the person standing behind you in line?  Can you give a small gift to someone who is alone?  There are so many things that you can do to lift someone’s spirits.  We should all try to do at least one act of kindness every day.

Some kindness quotes…………

Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up.  ~Jesse Jackson

If you haven’t any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble.  ~Bob Hope

It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.  ~Author Unknown

A good character is the best tombstone.  Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered.  Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.  ~Charles H. Spurgeon

Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day.  ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are.  ~Author Unknown

What this world needs is a new kind of army – the army of the kind.  ~Cleveland Amory

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What lies within us

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Be a kindness spy

 

Slide23We live in a culture that teaches people to be selfish.   We are supposed to think about Number One first and do what makes us feel good.   But this is backwards thinking.  When we try to make ourselves feel good first, we end up making ourselves and everyone around us unhappy.

The way to make ourselves feel good is to put other people first.  Look around and see if there is something you can do for another person.   Can you smile at someone who seems unhappy?  Can you buy a coffee for someone who seems down on their luck?  Can you help that old lady put her groceries in her car?  Can you say something nice to that nasty cashier because she might be having a bad day?  Can you take a few minutes to sit and listen to that lonely person at work?

There are so many people in this world that would benefit from a small act of kindness.  Thousands of people have never been treated nicely in their lives and they don’t know how to be kind to others, so we need to be a good example and teach them.  Be a kindness spy and be on the lookout for people who need some attention.  Always be prepared with a kind word or a few minutes of your time.   You could even pick up a few gift cards from a restaurant, discount or dollar store and be ready to give them out to people who are in need.

Are you a kindness spy?

 

Kindness like a boomerang, always returns.  ~Unknown

In a world full of people who couldn’t care less, be someone who couldn’t care more.  ~Unknown

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.  ~James Matthew Barrie

Love someone who doesn’t deserve it. ~Unknown

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.  ~Aesop

 

 

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Have you hugged someone today?

hug1Hugs are a great way to show someone who you love them.   Research has shown time and time again the value of hugs.   They help a person feel secure and valued.

Virginia Satir, an influential author and psychotherapist made the statement, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival.  We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.  We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

In some cultures, hugging is not practiced and this is sad because it affects people in a positive way and can promote healing as long as it is done with the proper intentions and not meant to be harmful.

Hugging your children will show them how valuable they are and help them build esteem.

Hugging your spouse will show them how much you love them.

Hugging a friend will show them how much you care about them.

Have you hugged someone today?  If not, what are you waiting for?

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A hollywood star that ate flies and dated a pig

Do you remember Kermit the Frog?  I used to love watching him on The Muppet Show and Sesame Street with my children.   The Muppet Movie was one of my favourites at that time and we watched it again and again. Kermit was one of the most famous muppets created by Jim Henson in 1955 and appeared on numerous televisions shows including The Tonight Show, Hollywood Squares and Who Wants to be a Millionaire.

Kermit quoted: “I’ve got a dream too, but it’s about singing and dancing and making people happy. That’s the kind of dream that gets better the more people you share it with.”

He had a great positive attitude which inspired us to dream and motivated us to work towards our goals.  If a frog can achieve his dreams, then we certainly can!

Read more about Kermit by following this link….http://www.values.com/inspirational-sayings-billboards/62-Live-Your-Dreams-Kermit-the-Frog

There are many more stories, quotes and other great information at http://www.values.com kermit

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A few animal quotes

FRIENDSHIP mixed animals - be a friendAnimals are reliable, many full of love, true in their affections,  predictable in their actions, grateful and loyal. Difficult standards for people  to live up to.  – Alfred A. Montapert

Eagles: When they walk, they stumble. They are not what one would call  graceful. They were not designed to walk. They fly. And when they fly, oh, how  they fly, so free, so graceful. They see from the sky what we never see.  – Anonymous

A dog has lots of friends because he wags his tail and not his tongue.  –  Anonymous

Even the woodpecker owes his success to the fact that he uses his head and  keeps pecking away until he finishes the job he starts.  – Coleman Cox

If you can dream it, you can do it. Always remember this whole thing was  started by a mouse.  – Walt Disney

If you think that something small cannot make a difference – try going to  sleep with a mosquito in the room.  – Anonymous

The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.  –  Andrew A. Rooney

 

 

 

 

 

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