I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

What are you saying to your children?

friesToday my sister and went to McDonald’s for a nice, healthy lunch.  Well not really healthy, but sometimes fries just hit the spot.  We were waiting in line for our order and we overheard a conversation between and little boy of about 4 and his grandmother.  She ordered a happy meal and the cashier asked her if she wanted fries or apple slices with the meal.  The grandmother looked down at her grandson and asked him the same question.   I thought, “This is great.  She is giving him the opportunity to make a decision”.   In my book, Grandma’s Notes on Parenting (, I explain how important it is to start allowing your children to make choices when they are young, so they will learn how to be responsible by making good choices and understanding consequences when they get older.

However, I guess the grandmother didn’t understand the importance of letting her grandson make his own choice.   His answer was that he wanted apple slices, but it amazed me when the grandmother said to the cashier, “Oh just give him fries, he never eats the apple slices.”

Why did she even ask her grandson?  By asking him and then making the choice for him, she was telling him that he wasn’t capable of making a decision or basically that he was too stupid to make one.  It seems like a minor thing, but it could affect his esteem.  It’s really hard to raise a child and nobody can do a perfect job, but we need to be careful with our words.  I know the damage that can be done.  Just a few words can destroy a person, but they can also repair and heal.

Please watch your words.  Make sure they are ones that show love, kindness, encouragement and support.

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Grandma’s Notes

red shirtMy grandson was staying with us for a few days while his parents were away and now he has gone home.  I really miss his smiling face in the morning and his happy laughter throughout the day.   I thoroughly enjoyed having him and I look forward to the next time.

When I became a grandparent for the first time 19 months ago, I started thinking about how many mistakes I had made when my children were growing up and I decided to pursue my dream to write some books.   The first one I wanted to write was about parenting and I began doing a lot of research.  I read several books on parenting, looked up information on the internet and combined all this research with my own personal experience.   My ideas were written down and then sorted into different topics which became chapters for my book.    After several revisions, I finally completed the book and then all I needed was a title.    The idea of calling it Grandma‘s Notes on Parenting came to me one night as I was falling asleep and this was a great lead in to my other ideas for books – a series of different topics called Grandma’s Notes on…………(whatever).

The next thing I needed was a company to publish my book.  I’d been researching the idea of self-publishing and came across a company called, a company that provides you with templates to type your story or download pictures.  Once you have completed your manuscript, all you have to do is publish it through their website where people can buy your book or download your e-book.  You can also buy some books and market them yourself.

What an exciting experience to receive copies of your own book in the mail and see them in print!  I sold my first book yesterday!  Now I’m anxious to write more.

Grandma’s Notes on Parenting is available at  The hard copy is $7.95 plus shipping which is costly (about $8) but the e-book edition is only $2.99.


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