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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

The real Audrey

I’m sure most of you know who Audrey Hepburn was.  I think she was an amazing lady with incredible talent.  Her story started in 1929 and ended in 1993 when she died at the early age of 63 from cancer.  During her lifetime she worked hard to become an actress who starred in over 25 movies becoming greatly loved by the world.  Audrey considered her greatest achievement was her work as a UNICEF International Goodwill Ambassador.

Audrey had a great compassion for her fellow human beings and was especially passionate about the plight of starving children.   Her final years were spent visiting countries where she saw famine and great suffering.  When visiting Sudan, Hepburn said, “I saw but one glaring truth.  These are not natural disasters but man-made tragedies for which there is only one man-made solution – peace.”   It’s too bad the world doesn’t understand this simple logic.

I found these “timeless beauty tips from Audrey Hepburn’ and wanted to share them with you.   Audrey certainly was a wise woman.

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Beautiful video. Grab a coffee and relax for a few minutes. Enjoy!

Simple Tom

This honestly just made me smile and I know it’ll do the same for you. Just sit back, relax, and take it in 🙂

Have an amazing day!

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An amazing man

nick croppedYesterday I wrote a short blog called “Who has made a positive difference in your life”.    This can be a tough question to answer, but if you think hard, there is probably at least one or more people who fit that description.   Today I would like to share with you a video clip about one amazing man who has definitely made a positive difference in my life.    Even though I did face some very difficult challenges, I now realize that many things were not really that important at all and I can look at life with an entirely different perspective – a positive one.

This video clip is from a recent Oprah Winfrey show……..be inspired!

http://www.youtube.com/embed/YwpiZTp0N9k

 

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Dress for success

5 friendsIf I told you to dress for success what would come to your mind?   A picture of a nice dress, a tailored suit?  Many of us think that we need to look good to be successful and this is certainly true, however being successful is not just how you look on the outside.   Success comes from your entire self, both outside and inside.

Have you ever been in a room of people when someone with a tremendous personality walks in?   It feels like the entire room lights up and becomes warmer.  People stop and turn to give their attention to this person because they exude confidence and success.   Is it because of the clothing they are wearing?  Is it because they are beautiful or handsome?  Not entirely.  They probably do look very nice, but it is their personality that shines from within.   What type of personality are you wearing?   Successful people are dressed from the inside out; their clothing is just the icing on the cake.

When I was a teen, I used to feel that wearing stylish clothing was important to having friends and being successful.   Everything I wore had to match and be without marks and flaws.  I couldn’t step out of the house without looking as perfect as possible and this attitude carried with me long into my adult years.  I realize now that the media had brainwashed me into believing everything important in life was tied up to how I looked.  How crazy is this?  People I didn’t even know were telling me how I should look and making me feel bad.  This craziness had a negative influence on my 2 daughters who were watching me and doing everything I did.   I certainly wasn’t a very good role model!

Instead of obsessing about how we look, we should try to build our confidence and increase our self-esteem so we can be happy about who we are and how we look.    It is important to try to look our best, but cost and style are not as important as having a good character and a positive attitude towards life.

Are you dressing for success?   Or are you trying to find success in your dress?

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The perfect diet

Is there such a thing as a perfect diet?  Yes, there is.  It is called healthy living and it consists of a balanced diet, exercise, and proper sleep.

Many people are obsessed with dieting because society projects unrealistic images of beauty.  And who gains from this?  Certainly not the people who are dieting – it is the companies who sell diet products and exercise equipment, the gyms, the doctors who perform plastic surgery, cosmetic companies and so on.  They make billions of dollars each year trying to make us feel bad about ourselves.

The fact is, about 90% of people who go on diets are NOT successful and many times, dieting can cause other health issues such as eating disorders and depression.  We need to stop being our own worst enemies and not do things that will frustrate us and end in failure.  There is only 1 healthy way to lose weight and keep it off.  How?  It’s very simple, but it does take time.  We all want a quick miracle, but your body didn’t get in the shape it is now in a few days or weeks and no miracle diet will help you get back in shape that fast.  Losing weight quickly is actually very dangerous to your health.

The first thing you need to do is change your eating habits.  Avoid eating a lot of sugar and fried foods.  Cut back on your caffeine, salt, fatty foods, red meat and eggs.  The best foods to eat are vegetables, fruits and foods with fiber and calcium.   Make sure you enjoy a treat once in a while, like cake or ice cream, but just have a SMALL portion.  This will help keep you motivated to continue eating healthier foods.  If you have any major health concerns, make sure you work on a diet with your doctor as there may be some special foods you need to eat or avoid. Also, drink lots of water as it re-hydrates your body, helps it detoxify, lubricates your joints and carries oxygen to the brain.

Next you need to start exercising regularly.  Many people diet but don’t exercise and this is important as it burns calories, increases energy and improves your physical and mental health.  Just 30 minutes a day for at least 5 days a week will help you maintain your proper body weight.  Walking is an excellent way to keep in shape.

It is also important to get proper sleep as it will help burn fat.  Studies show that sleep loss may actually increase your hunger and affect your body’s metabolism by increasing fat landon eating sandwich - Copystorage.

So, yes there is a perfect diet.  Instead of going on crazy diets or starving ourselves to lose weight, we should just live healthy and be a winner!

My grandson has already started on his healthy diet.  He loves eating tomatoes and fruit!

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Mirror, mirror, on the wall

When you look in a mirror, what do you see?  Do you see flaws and imperfections?   Do you criticize yourself and feel bad about what you see.

Many people have distorted ideas about who they really are because they are not looking through their own eyes, but instead are looking through the eyes of the world.  Society is obsessed with beauty and body image and this makes us feel that there is something wrong with us.   We are too big or too small, too fat or too thin, too dark or too pale, too tall or too short.  It doesn’t matter what we look like, it isn’t right.  Or so we are led to believe.

What we see in the mirror should be a reflection of the person we really are, a unique and special individual.  It should reflect not just how we look on the outside, but also how we look on the inside.   Our confidence and self-esteem should shine brightly in the mirror.

The following drawing shows what happens when we don’t see ourselves clearly for who we are.   This was something I heard in a seminar and I tried to draw the mental picture that I saw.  It’s about a boy looking in the mirror and talking to himself – his mother hears him and asks a question – he replies.  Sorry, it’s not very good, but it should speak volumes about what I’m trying to say.

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My favourite quotes about beauty

   

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.  ~Confucious

Beauty is not in the face, beauty is a light in the heart.  ~Kahlil Gibran

I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.  ~Unknown

Beauty is the gift of God.  ~Aristotle

Beauty – in projection and perceiving – is 99.9% attitude.  ~Grey Livingston

You don’t love a women because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. ~Unknown

Beauty comes in all sizes, not just size 5. ~Roseanne

The beauty of a women must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.  ~Audrey Hepburn

Beauty has a lot to do with character.  ~Kevyn Aucoin

For more quotes and information on beauty and self-esteem, visit my website at (www.imconfident.com)

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WHAT ARE WE DOING TO OUR YOUNG PEOPLE TODAY?

In today’s world, young people have huge issues about beauty and body image.  Did you know that about 2/3 of all females avoid participating in some activities because they feel bad about how they look and almost half of all males are unhappy with their looks?  There is so much pressure on young girls and boys to be physically perfect and this creates all sorts of problems – stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, eating disorders, and so on.

All you have to do is read a magazine, turn on the TV or look at a computer to see images of ‘beautiful’ people living ‘perfect‘ lives.   These unrealistic images of beauty become reality, especially for our young people and they become obsessed with their looks, losing all sense of their own unique identity.

Body weight has become a major issue and even though only 19% of teenage girls are overweight, about 67% think they need to lose weight.  Stats show that 80% of girls have dieted by the time they are 18 – but listen to this – 40% of girls have dieted by the time they are 9!!!  This just about blew me away!!!    What is happening to our young people?

We need to start promoting healthy living to our younger generation.  How?  By becoming a positive role model and setting a good example.

Are you confident in your own abilities and do you have a strong self-esteem about your own body image?  This will have a positive effect on those around you.  Or are you constantly dieting, criticising your own looks and obsessed about your clothing?  This will have a negative affect on those around you.

Make some positive changes in your life and then consider becoming a mentor to someone in our younger generation.  There are so many young people who don’t have any positive influences in their lives and they are desperately struggling to find out who they really are.    Try to make a difference in someone’s life and you will find it very rewarding!

Dove has put together a lot of ideas on how to start discussions with young people.  Visit their site for some great ideas  http://www.dove.ca/en/Social-Mission/default.aspx

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What do you say when you get up in the morning?

Mornings are tough for many people and sometimes it’s hard to just get out of bed.  Why?  It could be tiredness, an illness, a fear of something or not wanting to face the responsibilities of the day.

What do you say when you get up in the morning?  ‘I feel tired!  I don’t want to go to work (or school)!  It’s going to be a lousy day!  Nobody likes me!  I have to clean the house today!’  And so on….  We all say these things, I certainly do.

Before you even get out of bed, you have already ruined your day by being negative about life.   Does this benefit you at all?  No, it makes you feel miserable!!!

Instead of defeating yourself, give your day a kick-start with a positive statement or affirmation.   Even if you don’t feel good say, ‘I feel great today’.  If it’s raining outside say, ‘What a beautiful day it’s going to be’.  If you don’t like your job (or school) say, ‘I’m going to enjoy myself today’.  Say these statements out loud if possible as we listen more to ourselves than others and they will make a bigger impact on you.  The more you say these statements, the more you will begin to believe then and the better you will feel.

Morning is the best time to set your mood for the day and by starting the morning with a positive affirmation, you will have a much better chance of having a good day.  Repeat your affirmations often during the day (out loud if possible) and it will fill up your brain with positive power.  This will help change your attitude, give you energy and reflect in your actions.

Here are some ideas for positive affirmations.  Try to create some of your own.  Write the ones you like on a small card and put it somewhere that can be easily seen so you can repeat them often.

  • I feel special
  • I like to smile
  • I am a good friend
  • I am a kind person
  • I feel great
  • I am a valuable person
  • I did a good job

The best way to learn something new is to practice or repeat it over and over again.  Choose an affirmation you like and start repeating it several times a day until you begin to believe it.  don’t waste one more day believing you are not beautiful or that your life has no value!

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Do you like yourself?

In actual fact, most people don’t really like themselves and aren’t even aware of it.  This is why many of us struggle through life, trying to be somebody else instead of being the best person we can.

We compare ourselves to others who have more than we do and think they are lucky to have beauty, money, possessions, lots of friends, great jobs, power and so on.  What we don’t realize is that many of these ‘lucky’ people are not happy and they are also comparing themselves to others who have more that they do.  The sad fact is, many of these ‘lucky’ people do not get what they really want and need—LOVE.  Most of their so-called friends are only with them for personal gain and don’t really care about the person at all.

Most people are never satisfied with what they have or who they are.  Instead of wishing we had someone else’s life, we should look at people who have less than we do and be thankful for how much we really do have.

Society puts a lot of pressure on us to be the ‘perfect’ person and this is impossible in an imperfect world.  We search endlessly for happiness and success, but are just setting ourselves up for frustration and failure.

Instead of believing that we lack something in our lives and need to make personal improvements, we need to determine where our strengths lie and build on these strengths so we can become more confident.

Confidence and self-esteem are the only way we can find true happiness and success.  We always need to remember that we are all unique individuals and try to keep a positive attitude towards life.

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