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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

What do you do for fun?

I just watched a video that was very upsetting but didn’t really surprise me.  3 generations were asked the question,  ‘When you were a kid, what did you do for fun?”  Of course, when they asked the younger generation, it applied to what they did for fun right now.  The answers cut right into my heart.  Watch the video and then ask yourself these questions:

  • How does this make me feel?
  • Am I personally allowing my children to develop these behaviours?
  • What can I do to be a better role model?
  • How can I help make positive changes in  my children, grandchildren and other children around me?

 

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Are you paying more attention to your smartphone or your child?

smartphoneTechnology seems to be taking over our lives.  People are becoming addicted to using their cellphones, laptops, emails and other forms of wireless communication.  It isn’t just kids, adults are equally guilty of spending too much time checking their cellphones and emails.  You can’t go out anywhere without seeing someone who is talking on their phone.  Grocery shoppers are getting a list of items over the phone.  Diners in a restaurant are carrying on a conversation with someone while they are eating.  People on the street are calling a friend.  Drivers are reading a text that has just come in.  Many people have absolutely no patience at all when their phone rings or an email or text comes in and they are compelled to answer it instantly no matter what time of day or night it is.   The source of technology has taken control over their lives and now they have an addiction.

This is causing a lot of problems:

  1. High amounts of stress which can lead to lack of energy, poor sleep, unhealthy eating habits, illnesses
  2. Inability to prioritize which can result in lost time at work or school, missed appointments
  3. Potential injury or death if using while driving
  4. Lack of emotional control, little patience or self-control
  5. Poor communication with others face-to-face which can result in loss of friends, clients, jobs
  6. Makes other people feel ignored when phones and laptops take priority
  7. Miss important life experiences that take place while on phone or computer

I have a young grandson and I’m very concerned about the world he is growing up in.   People are putting more of a priority on their cell phones than they do on their children and at what cost?  Today I read an article called, “For the children’s sake, put down that smartphone”.  In the article a psychologist talks about the effect mobile devices have on children.  She interviewed 1000 children between the ages of 4 and 18 and they were ‘sad, mad, angry and lonely’ because of their parents’ smartphones or ‘stupid phones’, as some stated.

A pediatrician tells about a situation where she observed a mother totally ignoring her baby whom she was pushing in a stroller.  The baby was smiling and making faces at the mom but the mom was watching a video on her smartphone that she had placed between her and the baby.  What a shame that the mom chose the phone over a wonderful experience to share with her baby.  You can read the entire article here http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/04/21/304196338/for-the-childrens-sake-put-down-that-smartphone?utm_campaign=storyshare&utm_source=share&utm_medium=twitter

Technology is great and it has many advantages but we need to make sure that we are not being controlled by our cell phones or other technology.  If you think you are becoming addicted, PLEASE take some steps to curb this terrible habit.   Here are some suggestions:

  • turn your cell phone OFF when you are working, in a meeting, talking to other people, eating in a restaurant, in your car, while you are sleeping – you DO NOT need to be available 24 hours a day, people will leave a message if it is important or call you back
  • avoid answering calls or texts immediately if you are talking to someone or spending time with your children – this is actually VERY RUDE and can result in lost friendships and hurt your children
  • only check your emails at certain times of day
  • if you are a business person, hire someone else to read your emails and only forward the important ones to you

Monitor your use of technology and use moderation.  Teach your children to do the same thing so they won’t develop a bad habit or become addicted.   Your children are very likely to follow your example so make sure you are being a responsible role model.  Remember that people are far more important and valuable than a piece of equipment.  Build relationships and only make use of technology when you really need to.

Are you paying more attention to  your smartphone or your child?

 

 

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Smartphones can be dangerous

There have been numerous incidents with people using phones while driving and in many places, using handheld devices behind the wheel is banned.  It has also been proven that using hands-free phones cause problems as they create a distraction for the driver who often drives slower, changes speed or drives aggressively depending on how deeply they are immersed in their conversation.

I just read an article today that states there is also a risk for people using phones as they are walking.   Pedestrians have walked into door, lampposts, fallen down stairs and tripped while using their phones, being hurt in the process.  Some towns have actually started fining pedestrians who use smartphones while they are walking.

Cell phones are even causing problems for children being hurt in playgrounds because their parents are not paying attention while they are talking on their phones and I’m sure there are unnecessary accidents happening right at home with those parents who are obsessed about being connected to others all the time.

In this article http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/shortcuts/2013/jun/18/smartphones-and-rise-of-child-accidents  it states how a teen was hit by a train and killed while crossing tracks and kids on cell phonestexting friends.  How horrible is that!

We need to be responsible in everything we do in life and be a good example to those around us.   Technology is great when used properly, but being obsessed leads to potential problems.  Build strong personal relationships with people instead of your cell phone or computer and teach your children how to be responsible.  This will increase confidence and self-esteem.

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Do you care about your children?

listening with earphones3I read an article about media and family conflicts that disturbed me, but it really didn’t surprise me.  Every day I see and hear things about the problems being caused by the media.  Here is a short clip from a girl who thought she was sharing a photo with someone she could trust and it ended up being public.  http://youtu.be/Avm7nr1kZhg

A new study suggests that many parents are not concerned about how their children are using technology and don’t feel that it is harming them or that it will become an addiction.   A large percentage of the parents who seemingly don’t care, are heavy technology users themselves and consume up to about 11 hours of media a day in their leisure time.

This should concern all parents because heavy media use CAN and DOES have negative effects on children and everyone.

It is mainly parents who set the example for their children.  If they are immersed in using technology, this is sending a message to their children that it is okay.  If we don’t care about how things are affecting our children, who is going to care and what is going to happen to them?  We need to be responsible adults and teach our children valuable lessons so they will be able to make proper choices in life.

Here is the link to the article:

http://bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/06/04/most-parents-show-little-concern-about-childrens-media-use-survey-says/

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