I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

You do have the power to change

Many people believe that they don’t have the power the change something in their lives.  They believe that they are stuck in the same unhealthy relationships, the same dead-end job, the same negative way of thinking and that their health will never improve.  I used to believe this myself, but the truth is, we CAN change our lives for the better if we really want to and are willing to take action.

You can’t keep doing things the same way over and over and expect a different result.  You have to change something in your life: create new habits, develop new ideas, work on some goals.  If you just keep thinking about making a change and don’t take action, nothing will ever change.  You have to actively get going and do something in order to make positive changes in your life.

Change takes time.  You have to be committed to working hard and being patient.  Nothing worthwhile comes that quickly.  People today want things instantly and are not willing to invest time in their future.

If you want your life to change, here are some steps you can take:

  1. Sit down with a pen and journal or pad of paper and start brainstorming.  Write down your thoughts.  Create a simple plan of action.  Set some short and long term goals.
  2. Ask yourself some key questions.  What kind of relationships do you want to have?  What do you enjoy doing? What do you really want to achieve in life?
  3. Figure out what needs to be changed in your life.  What are some things that are working for you now?  What are some things that are not working?
  4. Determine any roadblocks that are stopping you from moving ahead.  What are these roadblocks and how can they be removed?
  5. Organize your plan of action and post it somewhere so it can be a daily reminder.
  6. Keep track of your progress in your journal.
  7. If something isn’t working the way you expected, modify your plan and make any necessary changes.
  8. Include some trusted family and friends in your plan and allow them to motivate and support you.
  9. Remember to stay positive.  You might not always accomplish what you want, but keep focusing on your plan and keep going.
  10. Most important.  Be patient, persevere and never give up.  Change will come if you keep working at it.
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Creating lists is a habit for some, an annoyance for others.  For me, I need lists to keep me focused on what I have to do.  Without lists, I am lost.  I forget appointments, ignore important tasks and miss a lot of details that need to be addressed.

Lists can jog our memories and help us deal with things from the past.  Lists can help us focus on the tasks at hand today and ensure that important things get done on time.  Lists can help us dream about the future and create simple goals.

Try these lists or make up some of your own.

1)  List all your accomplishments and how they made you feel.

2)  List the situations that make you laugh.

3)  List what you think about before you go to sleep at night.

4)  List all the qualities you like about yourself.

5)  List what you like to do when you are alone.

6)  List what you can’t live without.

7)  List the best gifts that you have received.

8)  List the things you’d like to do before you die.

9)  List the biggest turning points in your life.

1o) List the people who have influenced your life the most.





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Do a daily review

RFpencilEvery day we do many of the same things and a large part of these things are done by habit.  We don’t always stop and think about what we are doing and this is a good thing in many cases.  Why?  Because we wouldn’t get anything accomplished if we had to stop and think about each small thing that we did like getting dressed and eating.  We would never get out of the house if we had to think about all the actions required to just get dressed in the morning.  Wow!  Just think about that!  Lift your arm, put your leg here, step this way……

However many of our habits are not good for us, so it would be a good idea if we actually stopped to think about some of the things we are doing.  It would really benefit us if we took the time to consider what we are thinking and what we are doing.   Being aware of our words and actions could help eliminate a lot of stress and misery in our lives.

A daily review is a great way to gather our thoughts and consider what we have done that day.  Take some quiet time at some point during the day to sit down and write in a journal.   Ask yourself, “What did I accomplish today?”  This doesn’t have to be a list of major tasks.  It can be small things that seem unimportant but are necessary.  Here are some examples:

  • I got out of bed early
  • I made a healthy breakfast
  • I left for work/school on time
  • I completed my to-do list
  • I called and made an important appointment
  • I cleaned the house
  • I fed the dog
  • I went for a walk
  • I spend 30 minutes of quiet time

If you did something that you felt bad about (incomplete tasks, failures), what were they and how can you improve next time?  Here are some examples:

  • I didn’t make my bed this morning – tomorrow I will make sure I do
  • I didn’t complete my homework/house cleaning – tomorrow I will finish what I start
  • I was too busy to take my 20 minutes of quiet time that I promised myself – tomorrow I will set aside 30 minutes of quiet time
  • I didn’t hug my husband/wife/children today and didn’t spend time with them – I will put a note on the fridge and a reminded in my phone to do this tomorrow for sure
  • I was late for my appointment today – I will set my alarm to remind myself an hour before my next appointment so I won’t be late

What will your daily review look like?





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