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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Turn your New Year’s Resolutions into Goals

What is a resolution?  The dictionary describes it with various terms:  a firm decision, solving a problem, finding solutions, improvements, a formal statement, a firmness of purpose, etc.   All these things may be good, but they are basically thoughts and not actions.  They are the beginnings of what could be great endings.  Everything starts with a thought but something needs to be done with those life-changing thoughts or they will never become reality.

This is the problem with making New Year Resolutions.  We start off the year with all sorts of ideas and plans which is really great but then we get bored, impatient or frustrated and we give up.  Life gets in the way and we keep on with our bad habits, struggling and feeling like we have failed until the next year rolls around.  Then we try again.

Change doesn’t come easily.  It takes patience, perseverance and planning.  Instead of just resolving to do something, we need to turn our resolutions into realistic goals that we can work towards.  The most important step in making change is writing down your thoughts.  Just leaving thoughts floating around in your head will rarely accomplish anything.

  • write down all your amazing ideas and thoughts
  • circle the 1-3 most important things you want to accomplish in the next year; don’t try to do too much or you will soon become stressed and not be able to keep going
  • set up a plan to accomplish those things, breaking them down into small steps than can be easily be done every day or week
  • every day, check off what you have done in order to accomplish your goals
  • if you don’t succeed that day, don’t beat yourself up, just promise yourself you will do it the next day
  • keep going even when you feel frustrated or defeated
  • celebrate small victories as you go along
  • get family and friends involved so they can encourage and support you
  • review your goals and make necessary revisions if something is not working properly

If you stick to a WRITTEN PLAN, you sill soon seen some positive changes happening.  Be patient, be persistent and you will be victorious!

 

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You do have the power to change

Many people believe that they don’t have the power the change something in their lives.  They believe that they are stuck in the same unhealthy relationships, the same dead-end job, the same negative way of thinking and that their health will never improve.  I used to believe this myself, but the truth is, we CAN change our lives for the better if we really want to and are willing to take action.

You can’t keep doing things the same way over and over and expect a different result.  You have to change something in your life: create new habits, develop new ideas, work on some goals.  If you just keep thinking about making a change and don’t take action, nothing will ever change.  You have to actively get going and do something in order to make positive changes in your life.

Change takes time.  You have to be committed to working hard and being patient.  Nothing worthwhile comes that quickly.  People today want things instantly and are not willing to invest time in their future.

If you want your life to change, here are some steps you can take:

  1. Sit down with a pen and journal or pad of paper and start brainstorming.  Write down your thoughts.  Create a simple plan of action.  Set some short and long term goals.
  2. Ask yourself some key questions.  What kind of relationships do you want to have?  What do you enjoy doing? What do you really want to achieve in life?
  3. Figure out what needs to be changed in your life.  What are some things that are working for you now?  What are some things that are not working?
  4. Determine any roadblocks that are stopping you from moving ahead.  What are these roadblocks and how can they be removed?
  5. Organize your plan of action and post it somewhere so it can be a daily reminder.
  6. Keep track of your progress in your journal.
  7. If something isn’t working the way you expected, modify your plan and make any necessary changes.
  8. Include some trusted family and friends in your plan and allow them to motivate and support you.
  9. Remember to stay positive.  You might not always accomplish what you want, but keep focusing on your plan and keep going.
  10. Most important.  Be patient, persevere and never give up.  Change will come if you keep working at it.
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