I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

How you talk to yourself?

on November 6, 2015

It is very important that we think about how we talk to ourselves.  Words are very powerful and they can affect us in a positive or negative way.  If we are speaking to someone and want to make a good impression, we are usually very careful with our words.  We don’t want people to think we are insulting them or criticizing them.  Yet when we speak to ourselves, we often use words that are demeaning, unkind or damaging.  We tell ourselves that we are stupid, worthless and insignificant.  The voice in our mind keeps reminding us that there is something wrong with us.  Over and over again we repeat these false beliefs until they are so ingrained in our brain that the truth is obscured.

We should never use negative words when we talk to ourselves.  Telling ourselves that we are stupid or worthless is just not true.  We all have our flaws and imperfections and of course we do things wrong and make mistakes.  However, we are all in the same boat and nobody is any worse or better than anyone else.  There are enough people in the world that will tear us down because of their own insecurities, so we don’t have to help them.  Instead of tearing ourselves down, we should be telling ourselves what awesome abilities and characteristics we have.

  • Make a list of your abilities, strengths and positive character traits.  Focus on these instead of your weaknesses and negative character traits.
  • Then create some positive statements or affirmations that you can repeat every day.  Start them with ‘I’ (I am a good friend, I like to smile, I am going to be nice to someone today,  I am going to have a good day).  Say these statements first thing in the morning and also during the day so you can create a habit of positive thinking.
  • Pay attention to your thoughts.  Catch any negative thoughts and stop them from becoming negative words or actions.  Think of a positive thought that can replace the negative thought.

Changing your thinking will also change the way you talk.  It isn’t easy and it takes time but once you start thinking positive thoughts, you will stop hurting yourself and be able to enjoy your life.

So, how do you talk to yourself?

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