We should never measure ourselves against other people because we are all unique individuals. We can’t possibly be the same as somebody else and we are not supposed to be. Many of the people we are comparing ourselves to, are often very insecure about themselves.
Teens need to develop confidence and increase their self-esteem so they will be able to stand up to negative peer pressures and make good choices in life. As parents, we can help our own children and any teens we are connected to. Here are some ways that we can help them build esteem:
- Show love – Take very opportunity to show how much you love your children. No, they don’t just know!!! You have to tell them and show them. A child who feels loved at home won’t go looking for love in all the wrong places.
- Be encouraging – Life will always have problems and teens are very sensitive when they fail or do something wrong. They need to be encouraged to keep going and know that you will support them.
- Have an open mind – Teens need to know that you that you are listening to them and that you are not going to judge everything they say. You may not always agree with what they are saying, but they aren’t you and they will think differently. Be honest and open. Teens will talk to whoever with listen, so make sure that person is you.
- Be a positive role model – Teens always watch the people around them to see how they speak and act, so we need to make sure we are presenting a positive example for them to follow. Be the person you want your teen to be.
- Choose your words carefully – Your words have the power to impact your teen in a positive or negative way. Once your words are spoken, they can’t be taken back, so be very careful you don’t say something that is damaging. Say things that remind them of their great abilities and strengths.
- Spend time with them – Teens do like to spend time with their parents as it makes them feel valued. Plan some special times as a family and also one-on-one, to build a closer relationship. Make sure you aren’t spending time criticizing them or they will prefer to spend time with someone else.
The teen years are very difficult and your teen really needs your love and support. Be there for them and help them navigate through all the challenges they face. You will face obstacles and often feel like nothing is working, but if you keep the lines of communication open and keep trying to maintain a good relationship, your teen will feel your support and know how much you care.