I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

What is your love language?

on November 24, 2014

Did you know that everyone has a love language?  A love language is the way that people speak and understand each other.  As children we develop unique emotional patterns and we learn to love each other in a way that reflects how we were loved.  When we build relationships, we tend to speak our own love language which can cause communication problems as we are not speaking the love language that the other person understands.  We need to learn our own love language and that of other people around us so we can understand them better and show love in a meaningful way.

Last week I was very fortunate to see Gary a at a local church and hear him speak about his best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages.  I have read several of his books and found them to be very informative and helpful.   Learning these 5 love languages has helped save marriages all around the world.

The 5 love languages are:

1) Words of affirmation – these are verbal compliments, positive statements, words of appreciation

2) Quality time – this happens when you do something together and give your full attention to the other person with no distractions

3) Receiving gifts – gifts are visual symbols of love, tangible items that you receive

4) Acts of service – doing nice things for people, helping with the chores

5) Physical touch – hugs, kisses, holding hands a gentle touch

You can find out what your love language is by going to and trying the test.  We might have more than 1 love language and may have 2 that are close but there should be 1 primary love language that stands out the most.  My biggest score was Acts of Service and my lowest score was Receiving Gifts.  I feel very loved when someone does something nice for me like cooking a meal or doing the vacuuming.  Yet when someone gives me a gift, it doesn’t give me the same warm, fuzzy feeling.

What is your love language?

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