I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Are your children a mini-you?

on November 3, 2014

Parents have expectations about the future of their children.  Many parents want their children to follow in their footsteps if they have a successful or prominent career.  Other parents want their children to have a better life if they have struggled in a job they disliked or found difficult.  Then there are parents who were not able to reach their goal and they try to get their child to fulfill their dreams.  It is great to encourage our children to get a good education so they can pursue a promising career as long as we don’t try to force them into following our own expectations.

Are your children becoming what you want them to be or are they becoming what they want to be?  Our children should not become a miniature version of ourselves unless it is something that they want to be.  If you are a teacher and you have come from a long line of teachers in your family, you might try to convince your child to become a teacher.  If you have been a factory worker and you don’t want your child to work in the same strenuous conditions, you might try to steer your child away from this trade.   If you wanted to be a hockey player and were not able to achieve this goal, you might force your child to play hockey even though they are not interested.

We should try to guide our children in the direction they want to go.  Sometimes when a child is small, they may show an interest in what their parents are doing and this is normal but it won’t likely last.  We are all different and have unique abilities that may not always fit what we think.  Parents should discuss ideas with their children and find out where their interests and strengths lie.  Encourage your children to try new things and support them when they fail.  Teach them how to learn from their mistakes and make better choices.

Children naturally want to please their parents and may work hard to achieve a goal,  even if it isn’t their goal.  Don’t let your child become frustrated and unhappy because they are following your expectations.  Always consider their needs and interests.


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