imconfident

I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Do you compare yourself to others?

on September 8, 2014

Comparison can be a dangerous game to play.  When we compare ourselves to others, we are looking at ourselves as deficient in some way and judging ourselves from a negative perspective.

How many young people, especially women, compare themselves to others, believing they are prettier, smarter, more popular, more powerful, more talented?  The answer is>>>>TOO MANY!

  • Young girls compare their clothing, their hair, their body image, their possessions, their achievements and think that other girls are so much better than they are.
  • Young boys compare their style, their athletic ability, their muscles, their skills and think that they fall short of other boys.
  • Even adults compare themselves to other people and believe that they are inferior in some way

Instead of trying to be the best person we can be, we waste our time and energy searching for something that will make us happy and fulfill our dreams.  We live our lives believing the lie that we are just not good enough and who told you this anyway?  Maybe it was a parent who was struggling with their own identity.  Maybe it was a friend who had a mean heart.  Maybe it was something that you were watching on TV or reading in a magazine.  Society is very good at tearing us down and destroying our esteem by encouraging us to play the comparison game.

It is time to STOP comparing yourself to others and START looking at yourself.  Discover your strengths and accept your weaknesses.   Build confidence in your abilities and increase your self-esteem by becoming more positive.

There is nothing to be gained by comparing yourself to someone else unless you are using them as a role model to follow or a positive example.  Be the person you were created to be and use your amazing gifts as best you can.

 

 

 

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3 responses to “Do you compare yourself to others?

  1. It breaks my heart to know that comparison starts so early. Parents today really need to be better at being on guard of their childrens’ hearts from day one. This particular attack of the enemy is a cruel one indeed.

    • imconfident says:

      Yes, I also have a heavy heart when I see young people every day who are struggling to fit in when all they need to do is be themselves. Parenting is such an important job but most of us just wing it and hope that our children will turn out okay. We really need to teach children how to find their esteem through Christ and not through other people or from worldly possessions. My grandson is 3 and every day I pray that the enemy will not play mind games with his self-worth.

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