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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Our emotional needs

on September 3, 2014

Everyone has basic needs.  The need for food, water, clothing, shelter.  We can exist if these basic needs are filled, but these needs only sustain our bodies, they don’t meet our emotional needs.

What are our emotional needs?

  • We need love and acceptance.
  • We need to feel that we are loved, that we are important and have significance to someone else.
  • We need to feel accepted, that what we do isn’t as important as who we are.
  • We need to feel secure and know that we have worth and value.
  • We need to feel that we have a purpose in life.
  • We need to have confidence and good self-esteem.

Many of us grow up in an environment where something is lacking, an environment that doesn’t meet our emotional needs the way it should.  Our parents, other family members and friends may love us very much and have the best intentions, but may not know or understand how to fill our emotional needs.  We may be subject to rejection, disrespect, neglect or abuse.   Poor parenting methods may have been passed on for generation to generation without anyone being aware that any positive changes can be made.

We have to realize that our past does not define who we are today.  No matter what has happened to us in the past, we do not have to keep making the same mistakes that our parents and other significant others have made.  We have the power to completely change our lives in a different direction.

In order to change the way we think about ourselves, we have to change our beliefs.  If we have been hurt by others, we do not have to believe that everyone will hurt us.  Instead we should believe that we have value and that we are worthy of love.   We need to see the good in others and accept them for their imperfections.  We also need to see the good in ourselves and accept our flaws and imperfections.

Always remember that you have value.  What other people have done to you in the past or present reflects their character and does not reflect the person you are.   Believe in yourself and try to connect with people who are loving and supportive.  Join a support group, organization or local church that makes you feel comfortable and accepted.  There are a lot of awesome people in the world just waiting to meet someone like you!

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2 responses to “Our emotional needs

  1. Very inspirational. And very true. Thanks for the read!

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