I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Are you a caterpillar or a butterfly?

on July 3, 2014

Do you feel like you are a caterpillar, just crawling along the path of life, going nowhere in particular?

Or do you feel like a butterfly, flying high and free, showing your beauty and confidence to all?

Maybe you feel like a pupa (cocoon), just hanging around, struggling through life, waiting to discover your purpose?

We are all at different stages of our lives, depending on our environment, our background, our personality and the world around us.  Everything has an effect on how we feel about ourselves.   In order to make positive changes in our lives, we need to understand ourselves better.

In my Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook, I compare a human life to the stages in a butterfly’s life.  By creating a visual picture, it is sometimes easier to understand ourselves better.

CLIP CATR3In Stage one (the Egg Stage), the adult butterfly lays its eggs and waits for them to hatch.  This is similar to the pregnancy stage where the human is waiting for her child to come into the world.

In Stage two (the Caterpillar or Larvae Stage), the caterpillar starts eating and growing, while crawling along the path of life.  This is similar to the baby/toddler/child years where the child grows and learns.

In Stage three (the Pupal or Chrysalis Stage), the caterpillar struggles through metamorphosis, while rapid changes are taking place inside.  This is similar to the teenage years where the teen struggles with life situations while dealing with rapid changes.clip Monarch flying

Finally in Stage four (the Butterfly or Adult stage), the caterpillar emerges as a beautiful and confident butterfly.  This is similar to the adult stage where people can use everything they have learned and reach their potential in life.

If a child has grown up in a mainly positive environment, receiving lots of love and encouragement, they will have enough confidence to reach and remain in the butterfly stage for most of their lives.  Even when stressful situations happen, they may slip back into the pupal or caterpillar stage for a period of time, but will quickly return to being a butterfly.

However, if a child has grown up in a mainly negative environment, being the recipient of anger, abuse or neglect, they will lack the confidence to reach or remain in the butterfly stage.  They will develop fears and insecurities that will take them quickly back to the safety of the cocoon or caterpillar stage.

Confidence and good self-esteem are necessary for a successful, happy life.   All you have to do is change your perspective on life and learn to accept yourself despite your flaws and imperfections.  Developing a positive mindset takes a lot of hard work and commitment but everyone has the potential to become a confident butterfly.

If you would like more information on developing confidence and good esteem, visit my website at   My workbook can be ordered through the Bookstore page.






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