I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Are you an honest person?

on June 17, 2014

girl thinkingIf I asked you whether or not you were an honest person, what would your reply be?  Yes.  No.  Maybe.  I’m not sure.

The dictionary states that honesty is:

  • a quality of being upright and fair
  • being truthful and sincere
  • having freedom from being deceitful or fraudulent
  • having integrity and honour

Do you fulfill all these qualities?  Some people think they are honest but if they really looked deep inside themselves they would discover some things that really don’t measure up to being totally honest.

Here is a short quiz on honesty.

  1. Have you ever called in sick to work when you were feeling okay?   O Yes   O No
  2. Have you ever cheated on a test?  O Yes  O No
  3. If you got home after buying groceries and discovered that you had not paid for an item costing $10, would you just be happy that you saved some money?  O Yes  O No
  4. Are you a business person who does cash jobs to avoid paying taxes?  O Yes  O No
  5. Would you keep a wallet that you found containing $100?  O Yes  O No
  6. Do you take home pens and other items from work?  O Yes  O No
  7. Do you cheat on your income tax?  O Yes  O No
  8. Do you tell lies about yourself to get other people to admire you?  O Yes  O No
  9. Have you ever used someone else’s unprotected internet access?  O Yes  O No
  10. If a cashier gave you too much change would you just leave and not say anything?  O Yes  O No

Count up the YES and NO answers.  How did you score?  The more NO answers you have, the more honest you are.   The more YES answers, the more dishonest you are.  Did your answers surprise you?  Did you think you were an honest person and now have doubts?

What would you do if you found out your child had cheated on an examination?  What if your child was caught stealing or lying?  Would you accept this as being OKAY??   Your children learn their behaviours and attitudes from the people around them.  Are you teaching them how to be honest and are you following your own advice?

It is hard to be totally honest in a world that promotes deception, half-truths, white lies, exaggerations, cheating, lying and stealing.   We are led to believe that we have to be dishonest sometimes and that small things are unimportant.  We follow the example of others and compromise so we can fit in and be accepted.   We lose ourselves in a sea of dishonesty which just destroys our confidence and our ability to make good choices.

We have to stop ourselves from doing things that seem to make life easier and create a good habit of being honest.    This takes discipline and the ability to look at life from a positive perspective.   Being dishonest takes a lot of energy that can wear us down but being honest gives us positive energy.

Honesty makes you a more loving, responsible and reliable person that will gain the respect of other people.    Always try to be honest with yourself and others.



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