I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Are you insecure?

on February 15, 2014

Insecurity is reaching epidemic proportions today especially among women.  Research shows that about 75% of women are insecure about themselves in some way.  Women worry about everything.  We worry about how we look.  We worry what other people will think of us.  We worry that we will fail or look stupid.  We are always looking at other people to see if we measure up.  Men also feel these insecurities, however the percentage is not as high as women.

looking in mirrorWhen you look in the mirror, what do you see?  Flaws and imperfections?  Most of us focus on the negative aspects and fail to see our positive aspects.  Our beliefs about ourselves are rooted in how other people have treated us.  We form an opinion about our worth through other people’s words and actions.  However, this gives other people power over how we feel about ourselves and it does not define who we really are.

We are all born with unique strengths and abilities and we all have value.   When we look in the mirror, we should see someone who is worthy of love.  If we have been treated badly in the past, we need to work hard to overcome our feelings of insecurity and try to build confidence and strong self-esteem.

Feelings of insecurity can be overcome by making positive changes in your life.  This is not easy and it will take time.  You must:

  • commit daily to making changes
  • focus on the positives in your life
  • stop comparing yourself to other people
  • work hard on changing your negative thoughts into positive thoughts
  • be patient, change doesn’t come quickly
  • find people who can support you (trusted family, friends or professionals)
  • never give on yourself

If you have spent the first 20, 30, 40 or 50 years being insecure, you don’t have to feel this way any longer.  Start building some confidence today and soon you will be feeling good about yourself!  I know you can do it because I did!  Visit my website at for more information on building esteem.

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