I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

A temporary fix

on February 4, 2014

lady with a caulking gunThere are temporary fixes to everything.  A temporary fix to a housing shortage, a broken tooth, a computer repair,  a cracked window, a broken pipe.   We can figure out how to temporarily fix a lot of things, but we know that it won’t last and a proper repair has to eventually be done.

This also applies to our appearance.  The world constantly pressures us to improve our appearance so we continually look for temporary fixes so we can change the way we look.  We try different hair and clothing styles, use a variety of makeups and accessories, try to lose weight, all in the hopes that it will help us look better so people will like us.   Some of us even go as far as having plastic surgery to repair what we think is a major problem.  (Thank God, I never went that route)  Then when people make positive comments about us, we feel good about ourselves and this increases our esteem.

The problem is, a temporary fix to our outer appearance will not have any lasting effects.  We may get a sudden boost in our esteem but it won’t last because we are counting on other people to affirm our value.  When people stop telling us how good we look or paying attention to us, our esteem will quickly disappear.

It is important that we try to look our best but we need to work on our inner appearance and not just our outer appearance.  What we show people by how we talk and act is far more important that how we look.  We need to work at doing a permanent fix to rid ourselves of any insecurities and build some good esteem so we don’t have to resort to temporary fixes that don’t last.




2 responses to “A temporary fix

  1. Kerwyn Hodge says:

    SO well said! The inner beauty is the most important, even while we keep an eye on our outward appearance. I like that you strike a balance here. While saying that our inner person (beauty) is primary, you’re certainly not recommending that we let our appearance slip. Rather, we don’t want to fall into the trap of having an “outward only” focus.

  2. imconfident says:

    Thanks. It breaks my heart when I see people struggling to fix their appearance because I used to obsess about my looks. Some of my coaching clients have absolutely nothing wrong with their body image but are so insecure inside because they see themselves through the eyes of the world.

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