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Would your thoughts make you rich or poor?

on January 24, 2014

man with moneyIf someone paid you $100 for each positive thought you had and $10 for each negative thought, would you be rich or poor?

Unfortunately many of us would be poor because we are prone to negative thinking.  Every day we have thousands of negative thoughts going through our minds and only a few positive thoughts.  Some studies show that we have about 25,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day and about 80% of these are negative.   This creates all sorts of problems for us and wastes a lot of energy.  Negative thinking affects our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health.  Negative thinking can cause problems with work, school and relationships.  Negative thinking can keep people depressed and cause them to make poor choices.  Negative thinking can stop people from reaching their potential in life.  Negative thinking keeps people  down and living in darkness.

It is important that we focus on the positives in life and not on the negatives.  The best way to make our lives better is to change how we think about things.  We can’t always control how we feel, but we can control how we react to our feelings.  It is possible to create a habit of positive thinking.  Believe me, I know.  My thinking was almost entirely negative and now that I actively work hard at being positive, it is hard for me to think in a negative way.

In order to change our negative thoughts, we have to be actively aware of what we are thinking.  Being positive does not come naturally so we have to work at it on a daily basis.

  1. Start being aware of what you are thinking.
  2. Stop any negative thoughts by counting to 10, picturing a stop sign or taking a deep breath.
  3. Ask yourself why you are thinking this negative thought.  Did it come from living in a negative environment, are you depressed, do you have low esteem?
  4. Tell yourself you do not want to think this negative thought.
  5. If this negative thought is repetitive, ask yourself if there is something you can do to eliminate or fix the problem.
  6. Replace the negative thought with a positive thought by rewording your thought.
  7. If possible, say the positive thought out loud to reinforce it.
  8. Practise thinking positive thoughts every day using positive affirmations, talking to yourself in the mirror, writing your thoughts in a journal, meditating, praying.

The best way to keep focused on the positive is by surrounding yourself with positive people, places and things so they will have a positive pull on your life and be a good example for you to follow.  Try hard to eliminate or decrease any time you spend with any negative people and stop going to places or doing things that will make you feel bad.  If the negative people are family members or people you work with on a daily basis, this may be difficult to manage, but you really need to distance yourself as much as possible from people who continue to hurt you and keep you in a negative frame of mind.

Changing your thinking is not a quick or easy process but with lots of work and patience, you can do it.  Remember that habits are hard to break, so once you have created a new habit of being positive, it will be a habit that you will not want to break.


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