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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Are you a giver or a taker?

on October 17, 2013

In our culture, we are taught to be takers.  Whatever situation we are in, we are supposed to look for what we can gain. Takers expect something in return and are looking for personal satisfaction.  They always ask the question, “What is in it for me?”  If there is nothing to gain, then they don’t want to be bothered.  Takers feel their needs are more important than anyone else’s.  They demand attention and are usually unaware of the needs of other people around them.

Givers are those who are taught to be caring and empathetic.  They want to do things for others and help make their lives better.  Givers look for opportunities to help other people because it is rewarding and makes them feel good.   They pay attention to the needs of others and see the importance of doing good deeds.

Givers are usually more happy and satisfied with their lives than takers.  They are more positive, have a good attitude, are more loving and caring.  Givers are helpful to their family, friends and often contribute to their community.

If you are a taker, you should consider making some positive changes so your life and relationships will improve.  Making changes takes practice and repetition, so you will need to work hard and be patient.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Listen to what other people are saying and try to determine what their needs areHolding Hands with Elderly Patient
  • Treat people with love, respect and kindness
  • Try to communicate in a positive way.
  • Be supportive and let people know that you are there to help them.
  • Focus on the positives instead of the negatives
  • Practice doing acts of kindness
  • Think from your heart instead of your mind
  • Don’t expect people to do things for you, instead, do things for other people
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