I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Real love does not ask for perfection

on October 6, 2013

two couplesBeing perfect is impossible in an imperfect world, yet people search endlessly for ways to become perfect.   We also expect other people to be perfect and this affects our marriages and relationships in a negative way.

We need to understand that nobody is perfect and try to lower the expectations we have on other people and also ourselves.   Take a realistic look at people and determine what they are actually capable of.

What do you expect from your husband or wife?  Do you get angry when he/she doesn’t buy you that gift you wanted or take you out for dinner?

What do you expect from your friends?   Do you get upset if they don’t call you every day or visit you when you are sick?

What do you expect from your children?  Do you get upset if they don’t clean up their room or get straight a’s in school?

Our expectations on people are often way too high.  We think that they should know how we feel, know what we want and cater to our needs.  Many times this is just a lack of communication or improper communication and they don’t know how we feel or what we want.  Sometimes if we just tell them, we would understand each other and get along much better.

When we really love someone deeply, we do so in spite of their imperfections and flaws.   Expecting perfection from other people is not possible.  Our family and friends may not be perfect, but we aren’t either and we need to realize that we are all imperfect people in an imperfect world.  We need to get real and accept people for who they really are.

Real love does not ask for perfection.  Society puts conditions on love, but real, true love stands on its own and is unconditional.

Focus on what you love about a person and try not to expect perfection.  Lower your expectations, become realistic about your relationship and love unconditionally.


2 responses to “Real love does not ask for perfection

  1. Brenda,
    I agree wholeheartedly with this! I try to remember this. It actually isn’t easy! And I also think of the opposite… We should all be trying anticipate the needs, both physical and emotional and even spiritual, of our family and friends. Maybe that would all make us meet in the middle.

    I’m so sorry I can’t get WordPress to allow the comment you left on my “It’s a Bad, Bad, Bad, Bad World”. I even replied! Thank you for it though. 🙂
    You bless me.

    • imconfident says:

      It sure isn’t easy. The world has such a strong influence on us to be selfish and that everyone else should meet our needs. Life would be so much better if we could just understand the concept of loving unconditionally just as God loves us.

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