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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Life is full of choices

POSTER L37 life is full of choices

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Stop and think

wordsDo you ever really stop and think about some of the words you say?  Words have tremendous power that will affect someone in a positive, negative or even neutral way.

Words that are full of love, joy and kindness will have a positive effect.   Words that are encouraging and uplifting will have a positive effect.  Words that share wonderful ideas or tell about exciting, happy events will have a positive effect.  Positive words can build strong relationships and lead to happiness and success in life.  Positive words can build confidence and esteem for both the speaker and the listener.

On the other hand, words that are full of hate, anger and unkindness will have a negative effect.  Words that are discouraging and belittling will have negative effect.  Words that contain rumours or gossip will have a negative effect.  Negative words can destroy relationships and lead to misery and defeat.  Negative words can cause low esteem and this can affect both the speaker and the listener.

Words can also affect people in a neutral way if they are meaningless and unimportant.   If we only talk about the weather or matters that don’t interest the people we talk to, they won’t be affected much either in a positive or negative way.

Always remember that our words can never be reversed or erased.  You can’t go back and un-say that unkind word or mean statement.  Have you ever spoken or heard these words?  I have.

  • You’re worthless
  • I hate you
  • You are so fat
  • You can’t do anything right
  • What an idiot
  • You are ugly
  • Your life has no value

These are horrible words that should never come out of anyone’s mouth.   They could easily hurt someone and might negatively affect their entire life.  Once words are spoken, power is released to either heal or hurt, restore or destroy, lift up or tear down.

Make your words count.    Even if you are only talking to yourself, make sure you don’t hurt yourself with negative words.  Create a good habit by practicing positive words so you will be able to have a positive effect on other people.

Stop and think carefully about what you want to say.

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Once a word has been allowed to escape, it cannot be recalled.  ~Horace

I just wish my mouth had a backspace key.  ~Author Unknown

By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.  ~Winston Churchill

Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment.  ~Ira Gassen

The words you choose to say are just as important as the decision to speak.  ~Author Unknown

Keep your words soft and tender because tomorrow you may have to eat them.  ~Author Unknown

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Your family is a treasure

POSTER P33 YOUR FAMILY IS A TREASURE

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Sitting on the fence

people sitting on fenceAre you ‘sitting on the fence’?  Unable to make a decision?  Not wanting to choose sides?  Afraid of commitment?  Don’t want to start an argument?

Sitting on the fence is a phrase commonly used to describe a person’s choice to stay neutral instead of making a wrong or bad choice.

I’ve read articles from people who think sitting on the fence is a good thing and from others who think it is a bad thing.  In my opinion, I think in some situations it can be good in the short-term but it can get very uncomfortable after a while.

Sometimes it is hard to make a decision and it can be a good thing to stop for a while and consider all the possibilities.  If someone asks you to do something that is difficult for you, it is important that you take time to sort out your thoughts and determine what you are able to do.  If you are discussing your views on a controversial topic with someone and you don’t agree with the other person, it might be better to sit on your words for a while and figure out how you can say them without causing an argument.  There are many times when sitting on the fence can be a good thing.

However, sitting on the fence for too long is not really a good thing.  Think about actually sitting on a fence for a long period of time: it can get very uncomfortable and it keeps you stuck in one place.

Making decisions or choosing sides isn’t always easy, but if you want to move forward in life, it is very necessary.   We should determine what we feel is right and then make a decision to act.  You might not agree with others and your decision may not be popular, but it is your decision.  Sitting on the fence won’t get you anywhere, so don’t stay there for too long.

 

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Are you winning?

silhouette with trophyMost of us like to be a winner especially if it is noticed by other people.  When we win at playing a game or doing something that receives recognition, it makes us feel important and special.

When we are winning, it gives us a feeling of power and control.   This can be a great feeling unless winning becomes a habit and we are not satisfied with ourselves unless we are always the winner.   When we feel like we have to win at everything, winning becomes the most important goal to us even in small things.

Think about these situations:

  1. If your husband (or anyone) surprises you with reservations at a restaurant for dinner and you would rather go somewhere else, do you get upset and tell him that he doesn’t care about your feelings and that he should have asked you where you wanted to go?
  2. If your wife (or anyone) buys you a birthday gift and you don’t like it, do you tell her that she should know that you don’t like this particular item?
  3. If you are taking with a friend about a movie you watched together last year and she mentions an actor that you don’t remember seeing in the movie, do you argue about who the person was?

Do you stay upset until the person gives in or sees it your way?  Do you feel that you have won?

If you have the need to win all the time and have to get in the last word, you may feel you are winning, but in reality you have won nothing.  All you have accomplished is:

  • hurting the other person
  • maintaining control of the situation
  • kept your bad attitude

Look back at the three situations.  How could you have handled these in a different way?  Think about how you would feel if you were the other person.

  1. The surprise dinner – If you get upset and make negative remarks, will you have a good evening?   Not likely.  It could be a pleasant evening if you make the other person feel like they  have made you happy.  Most restaurants have choices and you can usually find something you like to eat.   Try something new and enjoy!
  2. The birthday gift – It can be hard to find a gift that is suitable for another person.  It is the thought that counts, not the gift itself.  Some people never get gifts at all, so just be thankful someone is thinking about you.  If you get a gift that you don’t particularly want, just thank the person and you can always re-gift it at a later date without the other person even knowing.  Don’t hurt someone’s feelings because you are picky.   Accept gifts with enthusiasm!
  3. The actor – We all remember things in a different way.  Some people have a hard time remembering who a person is and does it really matter?  Are you going to put a strain on your relationship because of a name?

It is hard to let things go when you expect to win all the time.   But winning is not everything, especially if we hurt others in the process.  It is far more important to consider everyone’s feelings and act appropriately.

 

 

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Young women feel compelled to act like porn stars…..

POSTER P32 better sex edI read an article this morning that included the poster above.  The article didn’t really surprise me, but it was shocking none the less.  Every day we are bombarded with images and printed information that promote sex and violence.  When I see these things, they bring out an urge in me to run out into the streets and scream, ENOUGH!

When is society going to realize how much we are damaging the minds of our young people?  Making money is top priority for many people but the health of our children should be top priority.  Children are our future so what is going to happen to our world if we destroy our children?

You can read the rest of the article here ….. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/10282145/NSPCC-Girls-think-they-have-to-act-like-porn-stars-to-be-liked-by-boys.html   There is a link in the article to sign a petition that will try to help update our view on teaching sex education in the schools.

Do you care about what your children are learning?

Do you care what kind of world they grow up in?

Stop ignoring the problems that are growing around you.  It is not okay for children to see and hear these things.  Too many people just accept what is going on and don’t think it will hurt anyone, but it does every day!  Voice your opinion and let’s start actively protecting our children!  What are you waiting for?

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Make each day count

3 people with clocksWe should live each day of our life as if it was our last, because we don’t know what could happen next.   Our lives could last for many years, however we could also be wiped out in a second.   Life brings sickness, disease, accidents, injuries and death.  Any one of these things could end our life instantly.

Today will never happen again.  It is here now and we should take advantage of the time we have, not wasting a precious moment.   Pay attention to your tasks and try to have a positive perspective.

Remember that everything you say cannot be taken back, so be careful with your words.  If you have something important to say, don’t hold back because you may never get the opportunity again.

Watch your actions because people will judge you according to how you act.  Are you making positive or negative statements about yourself?  Are you being a positive role model to others?

What are you doing today to make this day count?  Think about what you can do tomorrow to make your life count.

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Lies travel fast

Slide2“Mark Twain said a lie can make its way halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to put its shoes on, and he was speaking long before the digital age,” says Karen Eltis, a law professor at the University of Ottawa. “Today, it’s even more of a problem.”

It seems that people are far more interested in talking or hearing about things that are exciting and interesting, even if they aren’t true.   Today with our modern technology, it is so easy to spread lies and vicious rumours.   Gossip is considered commonplace and many people don’t even consider it to be morally wrong.

Why do people tell lies?

  • to avoid punishment for doing something wrong – children will naturally lie to get out of trouble
  • to be popular and be part of a group
  • to avoid arguments and disagreements
  • to maintain good relationships
  • to look important by exaggerating their position or success
  • to avoid telling the truth
  • to please someone by telling them what they want to hear
  • they lack confidence and self-esteem
  • live in an environment that thrives on deception

It is important that we understand that once we tell a lie, it cannot be reversed and the result can be destructive.  We need to realize that our words have power and we should be careful with what we say.

We would not like other people to spread lies about ourselves and we should never say anything that isn’t true or repeat anything that we are not sure about.  I’ve been in this situation myself and it certainly is not funny or amusing.   Lies can destroy marriages, friendships, work situations and life in general.

A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future.  ~Author Unknown

Worse than telling a lie is spending the rest of your life staying true to a lie.  ~Robert Brault

A lie has speed, but truth has endurance.  ~Edgar J. Mohn

With lies you may get ahead in the world – but you can never go back.  ~Russian proverb

Every lie is two lies — the lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it. ~Robert Brault

 

 

 

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September is a month for change

people jumpingSeptember is the beginning of a new school year for many people.   Kindergarten, high school, college and university are the start of many new changes in our lives.

Some people start a new job in September, join a club or an interest group.  This is a time when you can make a fresh start or begin something new and exciting.

What are your plans for this September?

Have you set any goals?

Many people go through life aimlessly, doing the same thing every day and never making any changes.  It’s like wanting to take a trip somewhere, but not making any plans, so you don’t really go anywhere.

If you want to be successful in life, it is important that you make definite plans or set goals.   Setting goals will give you a roadmap to success.

School,
Effort, and
Play.
Trying your best
Each hour of the day,
Making new friends,
Being good as you can
Exciting discoveries,
Reading books with a friend.”
–  Boni Fulgham 

 

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