My husband was checking his Facebook account this morning and I was reading my emails. He likes watching the short video clips and I heard the sound of a lady’s voice screaming. When I looked to see what he was watching, it was a clip about a mother yelling and using the F word, at her child to clean up the mess in the bedroom and that she was posting this on Facebook, apparently for the purpose of shaming the child.
I know there are many parents who raise their children in this type of negative environment, but hearing and seeing this really upset me. I wrote a quick comment – ‘This is a terrible thing to do to a child. It will destroy their esteem.” I wanted to add more and tell her that she should be ashamed of herself, but I stopped myself. I’ve learned to see people from a different perspective and I realized that this women had probably been raised in a similar environment and probably thought she was doing the right thing. Some of the comments she received from other people were praising her for taking control of her child.
It’s sad that people think it is okay to raise a child by controlling them, belittling them and criticizing them. This only creates an adult who has insecurities, fears and the inability to make good choices in life. Children need to be raised in a loving, encouraging environment if they are to become responsible, caring adults.
I feel very sorry for that poor child that was criticized and put down on Facebook where everyone could see it. What a cruel form of punishment! However, I also feel sorry for that mother who didn’t know any better.
Parents, please love your children with all your heart. Children are special!