imconfident

I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

Bullying doesn’t just happen to children and teens

on March 26, 2013

boss scolding employee on floorUntil a few years ago, I thought that bullying was something that occurred on the playground at school.  When I was a child, I was bullied because I was small and shy.   I remember a group of  bigger boys cornering me at recess, calling me names and throwing stones.   In high school, I just stayed away from everyone so they couldn’t hurt me, but I still got picked on verbally with rude comments and cruel jokes.    I figured that once I left school, I wouldn’t be bullied anymore and it wasn’t until I was working a few years ago for a temp agency that I had a boss who I realized was a bully.   Luckily I had gained enough confidence in myself to not let his bullying get to me and I quit that assignment.

Bullying can happen to anyone at any age right from young children to seniors.   People who are bullies in their youth will continue to be bullies unless something stops them or until they are taught how to act properly.    Workplace bullying is a growing problem and can result in the loss of jobs for those who are being bullied.  Stats say that up to about 1/3 of workers may be bullied.  We all need to take a stand when we see someone being bullied, whether is a child or an adult, and step in to help the person being bullied.  Don’t just ignore what is happening and walk away.  Research has shown that when people intervene, this can put a stop to bullying.  Speak up and tell the bully to stop.   Tell someone about the incident.  Help in whatever way you can.  Don’t risk your life if there are weapons involved or you are out-numbered – this is when you need to call the police as quickly as possible.

Here is a short video clip on workplace bullying.   http://youtu.be/V-q2VRAxjh8

There are several organizations that are working hard to stop bullying and they need your support.  Here are just a few  www.bullying.org   www.stopbullyingworld.org    www.bullyingcanada.ca   www.antibullying.net

What are you doing to stop bullying?

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8 responses to “Bullying doesn’t just happen to children and teens

  1. lstillman65 says:

    Bullying seems to be a growing problem. We’ve wrestled with it all year, thanks to a classmate who is a protege bully of an adult champion. I see her Mother bully the principal and the daughter model the behavior she is learning at home. When you see bullying, you need to step in and help, but you also need to realize that it takes two people — or more — to allow bullying to occur: the bully, the victim and any bystanders. Victims need to learn how to express themselves and stand up against the abuse being inflicted against them. There is no faster was to diffuse the bully than to not enable him/her to turn you into their victim. Building self-esteem and confidence are a big start. Regardless, bullying is a horrible crisis today and whether it is physicial or social, we all need to do our part to make it stop. Good post!!

    • imconfident says:

      You are right – we all allow bullying to happen if we don’t take action and it is great that schools and organizations are starting to work towards stopping this terrible act. Victims do need to learn how to stand up for themselves and in my workshops I stress the importance of building confidence and self-esteem in their children. Sadly many children are not taught how to stand up to bullies and even if they know how, they may be afraid when they are outnumbered. I certainly didn’t know how to help myself and I wish someone had stepped in to help me.

      • lstillman65 says:

        As parents, we have to be in tune to our kids’ lives and take time to hear what is happening. If I hadn’t pressed on what was going on in her world, I’d have missed it! Our school year started out VERY rough, but it has become a series of important teaching moments about how to stand up for yourself, find your voice, set firm boundaries and seek understanding. We’ve learned that the “bully” is usually the one truly hurting. Under that tough shell is pain. We don’t need to know the source, need to fix it or even have to befriend it, but we can quietly pray and have compassion for their pain. They are likely trying to gain strength and power over their own wounded situation by trying to inflict hurt somewhere else. It is a wicked cycle we refuse to continue. Lots of opportunity for education and it starts at home, in the modern classroom and needs to start now!

  2. seeker says:

    This is a big awareness where I work. I actually have posted several post on anti-bullying. We had anti-bullying day where we wore pink. Thank you for posting this.

  3. Patty B says:

    I have been blessed that my “bullying” days were over with school. Those were horrible years – but as an adult I have not been bullied only “controlled” by certain people that left me with low esteem, which I guess we can say is a form of bullying. But a few boss’s later and good friends to support me not to mention my DH – here I am at age 50 and continuing to blossom but it has been a long road. I am giving hope to those who may be bullied and lifting them up as others are trying to tear them down. An encouraging word and a hug to offer them support, care and love can go a long way. I like the idea to post anti bullying messages and in this social media world we can plaster the word to love another and help those that are being bullied and not stand on the side lines. Thank you for this awareness –

    • imconfident says:

      Thanks. We all need to do what we can to try and stop bullying and any other kind of abuse or violence. Together we can make a difference!

      • Patty B says:

        Like I always say it only takes one person to make a decision to do something, but if everyone does their part then the one person turns into many people and wa la we have a better world.

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