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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

People watching can be therapeutic

on March 24, 2013

What is people watching?  This is when you go somewhere to observe people without them being aware that you are watching them by glancing quickly back and forth from person to person.  It isn’t done to spy on them or look at them inappropriately, it is done to learn something from their actions.

people walking on sidewalkPeople watching works best in a crowded area where you won’t be noticed.  You can sit and look around at people acting naturally and not behaving as if they were being studied.  People watching is a great activity that can help you understand people better and give you a different perspective on life.

If you are feeling lonely or depressed, people watching can elevate your mood.  Go to a mall or somewhere that has a lot of people and find a comfortable place to sit.  Smile at people.  Try to figure out what they might be thinking or what kind of person they are.  Surrounding yourself with people will help you get your mind off your own problems and show you that you aren’t alone in the world.

People watching is a great way to teach your children how to accept themselves and be happy with who they are.    Children can become overly immersed in the media and lose their sense of self-worth.   Every day they see images of ‘perfect’ people and they become convinced that there is something terribly wrong with them.  They need to learn the truth and people watching can be a great teacher.

Have your children sit with you and teach them how to inconspicuously look around at all the people walking around.  Talk with them quietly and get them to observe everyone.  Ask them to find two people who look and act exactly the same (without pointing or staring).   This will get them thinking about how different everyone is.   Discuss how we are all unique individuals and we are supposed to be different.    Ask them to show you the people who are ‘perfect’ – those who are stunningly beautiful or extremely handsome (without pointing or staring).  They probably won’t be able to find many of these.  Discuss how most people are just average looking, some may be more attractive than others, but nobody is really perfect and never will be.  This can start an ongoing discussion on beauty and body image and how we should accept ourselves as we are.

People watching can help your children and yourself to build esteem.   It shows life in reality from a real true perspective instead of looking at unrealistic images that are distorted by the media.

 

 


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