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Toxic people

on March 7, 2013

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The world is full of toxic people.  You know those people who seem to poison everything around them.   The ones that are extremely harsh, malicious, or harmful.  They just seem to take pleasure in making your life miserable.

Toxic people:angry man

  • complain most of the time
  • blame you for their problems
  • are usually negative
  • like to argue
  • always find fault with someone or somethingangry lady
  • drain your energy
  • overreact
  • twist your words
  • try to control and manipulate
  • talk down to you
  • gossip about you
  • take advantage of you

There have been several toxic people in my life and they always had a negative affect on me.    I’ve learned to try to walk away from them when possible.  We can’t change their behaviour but we can certainly change ours.  If they are a family member, close friend or co-worker that we have to remain in contact with, we can try to eliminate the time we spend with them and develop relationships that are more beneficial.

Detaching yourself from someone does not necessarily mean that you don’t care about the person.   We often have people in our lives that we love very much but they may be very harmful to our physical, mental and/or emotional health.   Detachment is important so you can take care of your own health and work on becoming strong, so you can go back and try to help them.  I had to do some detaching to work on my own health – it wasn’t easy but it was very necessary and my life has improved tremendously.

Are you a toxic person yourself?  Is there something in your behaviour that may be affecting someone in your life?  If so, try to make some positive changes and be a good example.

Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big stop in loving yourself.  ~Hussein Nishah


3 responses to “Toxic people

  1. C.F. Martin says:

    This has been one of the hardest lessons in my life. Learning to recognize these traits in myself and in others….then changing what I can and accepting what I can’t. And then, letting go!
    Thank you for a thought provoking post!
    Peace and Love~ Christine

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