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I sincerely believe that it is far more beneficial and far less costly to help a child build confidence than it is to fix an adult who has little or none.

The Blame Game

on November 8, 2012

This is a game that most of us have played but seldom have ever won.  It is a game where you transfer your faults to someone else so you can avoid responsibility for your own actions.  The objective of this game is to make someone else look bad so you can excuse your own bad behaviour and make yourself feel powerful.

The Blame Game is not a fun game and it should be one that we avoid playing.  So why do so many people play this game?  It is often because we haven’t developed good self-esteem and are afraid of failure.   We think that if we make a mistake that others won’t accept or like us, so we try to blame someone else for our problems.

Blaming others is a negative action that actually makes us feel worse and creates unhappiness and stress for our families and friends.  How many times have we said things like, ” You have ruined my life.  I’m late because the traffic was heavy.  It’s my boss’s fault that I’m stuck in this job.  You are the problem in our marriage.   I can’t lose weight because my wife is always making deserts.  Your overspending got us into debt.”

None of us are perfect and we all play the Blame Game sometimes.  It is true that others can cause problems for us, but often our problems are the result of our own poor choices and how we respond to what others do.  We need to take responsibility for our own actions and try not to blame others.

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